Post # 1
So my wedding is coming up in approximately 25 days and sadly I did not lose the weight that I was hoping to, so I am feeling fat, and no one wants to feel like a fat bride. At this point I weigh about 10lbs more than my fiance, which also really bothers me, especially since I used to be about 60lbs lighter than him…granted he has lost about 50lbs, but still no one really wants that either. So I guess I am at the point where I need to just start accepting myself for what I am right now, but that is hard to do, especially with trying to get all the last minute details in order (which there are far more than their should be…but that is another issue as I am a world class procrastinator) which is increadibly stress inducing and basically makes me want to break down more about the things that I can’t fix right now, like my weight.
I could blame the fact that I am not losing weight on medical issues (I have PCOS, and hip problems) but ultimately I still blame myself for not working out hard enough or eating exactly right. I guess the point of this post is more or less to find kindered spirits who maybe wish they had been just a little bit less fluffy on their wedding day, and see how they are dealing with it.
For reference, this is me in my size 18 David Tutuera gown (I swear to God I never thought I woudl wear a size 18 and I think the whole bridal sizing thing is just another horrible horrible thing that just makes you fee l even worse…but that is also another rant).
Post # 2
omg you look stunning! No one in their right mind would ever call you fat! You are beautiful and you need to appreciate yourself more! We are our worst critics!
Post # 3
Very Pretty dress, it looks great on you!!
Post # 4
You look beautiful in your dress, I know it’s easier said than done but don’t be so hard on yourself. You look perfect. 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
Wow you look AMAZING! Please don’t feel fat, you are so beautiful and your dress makes you look fab.
Post # 6
You look fantastic! Honestly, if you hadn’t said you were in a size 18, I would have thought you were an 8. Your dress is incredibly flattering! I would make sure to up your water intake if you don’t normally drink a ton of water so that you’re glowing on your wedding day 🙂
Post # 7
You do not look fat! At all. You look stunningly beautiful and your body is lush! Your shape is sexy and hot. I love it. I would so your fiance is going to flip!
Post # 8
Girl I’m gonna be honest with you. Wth are you seeing? You look amazing! Your figure is great, your waist goes in. I do not see a fat person. At all. You look beautiful!
rock your gorgeous self!
Post # 9
1- You look stunning. 2- You can’t beat yourself up for what you think you should have done. 3- bridal sizing is a sick joke. Keeping chugging and enjoy your day.
Post # 10
Girl, you know damn well you are not even close to fat.
Like, seriously (and I am known for being BRUTALLY honest).
Post # 11
Hi! I feel your pain! Just to make you feel better, I got married al,lost a year and a half ago and then had a baby about 2 months ago. I was heavier on my wedding day than it was when I was 9 months pregnant with my daughter. my dress had to be let out about 4 inches (I grew 3 inches and 4 cup sizes in my bust 😑)! I didn’t order small either! So I feel your pain! Every time I look back on the pictures I feel sad because I know I didn’t look my best, but honestly…there isn’t one person who judges you more than yourself. I think you look great in your dress and would never think you look like a size 18! Just cut out the tag and forget about the number! You look fantastic and are going to be a beautiful bride!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2016 - Theater
Shh. Shhh. Take this. It’s a chill pill. Shh.
Honestly though, I understand you’re more upset because you fell short off a goal than the actual weight. The weight is what you’re seeing, sure, but you are not by any stretch oozing out of your dress so I would not worry one bit about that. You still look quite trimmed to me, so I’m sure you’ve been excercising? You look charming the size you are.
25 days is plenty of time to take good care of yourself. Allow an indulgence once a week. Eat clean and healthy with colorful vegetables and fruit. Drink water and avoid extra spicy extra salty extra sugary foods. Don’t exercise too hard, damaged muscles will retain water as they heal. But do keep daily activity up even if it’s just house chores or a leisurely walk. I recommend dancing by yourself, it not only picks up your heart rate but also makes you feel a lot happier. (This is how I’m cheating post-emigration depression and it works)
Above all else, do not beat yourself up. The world is cruel enough as is, you don’t need to be your own enemy. Be a friend to yourself. You are a lovely creature and you deserve to feel that way.
Post # 13
There are 25 days left. It’s a waste to worry at this point. You’re not fat. Get on with the rest of your final wedding details.
Post # 14
hello fellow PCOS lady! It’s poo isn’t it… I think you look stunning in your dress, absolutely perfect <3 and the buttons… and the bustle… Wow!! Try not to worry as hard as it is, you look great 🙂
Post # 15
Thanks everyone for the encouraging words, and though it might not look it I am pushing 200lbs right now when I am happiest being around 155. I have just been feeling kind of down about it lately, but you are are so wonderful and are definately helping with my self esteem