(Closed) Feeling a little frightened

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think lack of sleep may be making you overthink.

Best to get a good nights sleep and then re-evaluate the next day with a clear head.

To me this just seems like a case of breakdown of communication, and distance making everthing that much harder. 

Hugs, and hope things look brighter.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@Silentlove:  Try to go work out or do soemthing active in the early evening tonight if you can – wear out your body so it’ll help your mind rest.  When I’ve got a lot on my mind it’s one thing that really helps, and being physically exhausted leads to much better sleep than being stress-exhausted. And drink some chamomille tea before bed,, or wamr milk.  Things might look better with a good night’s sleep – I get really irritable and emotional when I’m lacking in the sleep department, and things that are nothing blow up in my mind to be everything, and I sleep even less.

I hope things go well when you’re able to talk.

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hunny, I think because of the lack of sleep issues you’re overanalyzing the situation because I certainly do that also when I don’t have sufficient amount of rest!!!!! take it With my experience with school–I’m wrapping up my last semester before graduating this summer–busy busy busy with with finals and research papers up the wazoo!  my fiance is working 10 hr shifts 6 days a week so we get little time to see each other-mostly in passing or in a text because of our mixed up schedule.

Things will dewindle once the semester is over with for you guys. I’m sure it’s difficult on him that he can’t see you as much as he would like, too. Try to focus on something that you’re truly passionate about to ease your mind 🙂 And perhaps if you don’t hear from him when you want him to, send him an “I love you” or “I miss you” text message–just to let him know you’re thinking about him. 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is normal. Me and my guy go through this pretty often, but we don’t look at it so much as a negative. It gives us space to go and live so we actually have things to talk about, because sometimes we’ll talk so much that there’s really nothing more to say. (Although when we’re physically together, we can’t shut up! lol)

It’s not that we don’t miss or love each other…it’s just something that inevitably happens when you’re in a LDR for an extended time. Everything will be alright! <3

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You are overanalyzing.  You guys are just having a rough week. Get some rest, drink some tea, and try to relax 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I understand :-(. Last summer, I would analyze everything and make myself worry. I have the uncanny gift to be able to take a situation and completely blow it out of proportion.

  It’s natural to think those thoughts–you don’t want to get hurt, so you may think that if you come to the conclusion by yourself, you’ll save yourself some heartache (at least, that’s how I roll on this one). When I start to feel those thoughts creep in, I have to take a step into his shoes. Before my Fiance proposed last summer, he had some huge qualifying exams to get into the next stage of his program. Besides having to re-take his quals, he was stressed out with work. I would get so upset at myself that I couldn’t fix his problems for him, and then I would start feeling those doubts creep in.

  Sometimes, I have to remind myself what I do when I’m going through a lot. I like to zone out in something mindless, I don’t feel like talking to anybody. I have gone through those feelings where I didn’t want to talk to my Fiance. It wasn’t anything against him, it was just a stressful time and I didn’t feel like talking to anybody! I remind myself that those feelings don’t change how I feel about Fiance, it’s just a coping mechanism.

  Good luck getting through the next few days :-(. Do whatever you can to keep yourself busy and distracted.

  Get some good rest tonight and try to stay busy until Friday evening.

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