Feeling a little 'less than'….

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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anon1 :  My boyfriend and I never discussed numbers. We ballparked it. I asked for a number with a range of 10 (i.e. teens, 20s, 30s, so on). He answered, I told him I’m more than that and we left it at that.

Sometimes I feel guilty about this as well but it doesn’t matter.

Post # 32
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

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lifeisbeeutiful :  That certainly is not what I was trying to convey.

Post # 33
704 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts

I didn’t think guys cared about that crap anymore lol!! I had my fair share of hook ups and some friends with benefits. I know I’ve slept with basically double my SO, but like… he gives zero shit about it. He loves me and he loves that I’m confident and that I know what I like and what I don’t like. He didn’t like hook ups … which just blew my mind. I guess I just was with so many buttholes that I just thought they were all gross and would rather just bang a chick and not have any attachments, but I was so so so wrong. My SO loves having an emotional connection with me and I’m so happy I found him

Post # 35
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Like so many PPs have said, your past is past. Focus on the now. It sounds like you’re doing so well and have so much to be thankful for. There just is no point in dragging any dirt from a life long gone. 

When my hubby and I met we were both openly dating others but within a week of our 1st date he let the others know he had found someone (which I thought was fast). One even called him while we were out one night and he told her he was out on a date . She got so jealous even though she was dating another too.  It didn’t bother me one bit, I had to laugh.

We never discussed how many other relationships we’ve had.. I just never cared to know and did NOT want to know any names. My thing. To this day we never discussed it. There’s just no point. We chose each other and that’s all that matters now. 

No need to feel bad about your past. 

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