(Closed) Feeling a little let down

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Took care of those other posts for ya :-).

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

You know… everytime i receive save the dates, i ooh and awe over them, but after reading your post, i realize i rarely send out an email to the person who sent them to me… and as much as i ooh and aww, i just realized, they probably don’t know that…

 Thanks for the reminder… i think it’d be nice if i provide feedback, b/c you are right to be excited about sending them out, i’d be excited to πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Try not to read into it.  I think people took it at face value (and marked it on their calendar, so they wouldn’t accidently book that weekend in the mountatins.)

It sounds like you were really proud of the STD’s and wanted someone to compliment you on them. 

I wouldn’t necessarily say that your wedding is just another wedding to your guests.  I think they are happy for you and want to support you.  But yes, they probably don’t have it as a high priority to phone or e-mail you ton how nice the STD looked.

Are you concerned this indicates you’ll get a lot of regrets?  I was worried about that for my wedding.  I’m a little insecure.  But I don’t think that indicates anything like that.

Good luck.  Hang in there.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Set up a way to stalk your website visitors! It’s fun, and it will show you that there is excitement about your wedding. I use statcounter.com. When you see that lots of people are going to your website excitedly and clicking around, you will feel better!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale

Don’t worry, I only got one or two comments. Even our parents didn’t call. I was bummed, but since I have seen it on numerous fridges, so I know folks got them and people are just now starting to email me how excited they are for our wedding, even though I sent the STD back in October. I think it just don’t think people think as far ahead as us brides have to! Chin up, I am sure your Save-The-Date Cards are fantastic!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The same thing happened to me! I never heard a peep after anything I sent out. Not the STD’s, the invitations, our Christmas card (which also was our engagement photo), our wedding announcements, our thank you cards, NOTHING. We also never got any compliments on our expensive and elaborate wedding. Same thing happened to one of my bridesmaids, and she prepared me not to expect to hear from anyone. It’s disappointing but you probably won’t ever hear from anyone. One bright spot though is that we have since gone to people’s houses and seen our cards on their fridges and our photos in frames. People do like to save and enjoy these things so you’ll just have to hope for that!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I know I’m just repeating what other ladies have already said, but I didn’t get many comments either. My grandparents mentioned them, once I called them. And that was about it… 

I think that we are so involved with every step of our weddings, and our save the dates are a labor of our love… the beginning of what is to come. BUT others don’t realize how much work goes into them. And, as you mentioned, your guests probably saved the date, since that’s what the save the date says. They didn’t think to email you, because people don’t really respond to save-the-dates. But it seems like you have a good perspective on the whole situation.

 I created a website and I put that website on my save the date. My Fiance and I both put hours upon hours of work into our website, and we set up a whole "Guestbook" section. To this day, we only have about 15 comments on our Guestbook, out of the almost 200 guests that we invited. And all but 1 of those comments are our immediate family members. I really expected more comments than that!!!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You should post a picture of the save-the-dates on here, and we promise to ooh and ahh!  πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I felt the same way!!! I even set up an email subscription in the "updates" section of our wedding website, but am disappointed to have only two subscribers (and one is my mom…haha!) I think I was guilty of looking for compliments, too, and the few I did get have sustained me. Now I’m  thinking that the Save-The-Date Cards are not the main deal of the invite suite–the invites are, so I’m concentrating on those. πŸ™‚ We do want to oooh and aaah over yours–please post!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I also felt the same way.  No one really responded to the card I had made (it was so cute!) that also doubled as our Christmas card.  I wouldn’t stress about it, looking back I realize that people are just busy.  You’ll get a response when you send the invitations out!

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