Post # 1
So, my wedding is in 6 weeks & I feel like I am getting pulled in a million different directions. I work full time & am doing a very DIY wedding that I spend my evenings & weekends prepping for. So this leaves me with very little time to hang out with friends. Most people are being understanding but I have a few friends who are feeling neglected. I keep thinking “After this is all over I will make it up to them”. & I really mean that, but I am having a hard time not getting emotional at the thought that I am dissapointing people I love. I don’t really know what to do, I already feel like I barely have time to sleep, clean, do laundry, spend time with my family, run errands, work out, RELAX, & spend time with my man. I feel so confused & selfish but I just can’t figure out how to balance it all. Not to mention I could use help with things but feel guilty asking people to come & help when I am not making extra time for them. Long story short, I’m over this wedding planning business. I can’t wait to marry my fiance but at this point I am SOOOO READY for the honeymoon!
Is anyone going through this as well? What can I do to fix this?
Post # 3
It is so funny that you just posted this. I was just feeling the same way. Our wedding is 17 days away and I feel very much overwhelmed. I work full time, attend school part time and have two daughters. I am also having a DIY wedding. I just want that day to get here and I look very much forward the honeymoon. I guess there is not much we can do to get through but just to rememeber why we are doing it and invision the wonderful emotions that will be felt that day. 🙂
Post # 4
Next time you speak to these friends who are feeling neglected tell them how much you have on thier plate and welcome them to your home if they want to help. That way they get to spend time with you and you get some much needed help!
Post # 5
@JessyLovesJaCoby: The time you spend reading these responses would be the same amount of time sending out a quick “Hey! I’ve been thinking about you guys!” kind of email. Be proactive, and write updates on your progress to make them feel included, yet at the same time communicating to them what you’re tackling and why you’ve been so busy. When you put it into perspective without them even asking, they have no choice but to be understanding. Heck, you may even get a response from someone saying they would be willing to help. In that case, you wouldn’t have ASKED for their help when they offered it. SCORE! Just supply a bottle of wine, play some neat music, have a girl talk, and make your favors.
They will understand. Don’t worry too much. The fact that you care enough about “neglecting” people 6 weeks before the wedding says a lot about the friend you are under ordinary calm circumstances. I’m sure they completely understand.
Post # 6
I can see where your frustration lies, but your loved ones should also understand why you can’t hang with them like they want. If you could use help with some of your DIY stuff, why not set up a girls night with some wine (or your drink of choice) and order in some dinner and make it a hang out session where you can catch up. If one of my close friends was in your same position and I was feeling neglected, I wouldn’t mind a little DIY/girl talk one evening. You could always just make a quick call on your way home from work or in between running errands to catch up and let them know that you were thinking about them. Good luck!
Post # 7
Thanks for all the replies girls! I appreciate everyones input & found it very helpful. I had my bachelorette party last night & it was soooo much fun & great to spend time with everyone! 🙂