(Closed) Feeling a little possessive

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Why wouldn’t she hang out with the whole group?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, why wouldn’t Jessica hang out with the rest of you? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’m hoping that your Maid/Matron of Honor would be smart enough (and kind enough) to hang out with you at your bachelorette. If not, then that’s just dirty and wrong. I wouldn’t worry about it too much until it happens. I’m sure everything with be rainbows and cupcakes! (Except that Jessica will be there…)

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Bubu82: Oh, I don’t think its cool that she is inviting all these people to your bach party, especially people you don’t know 🙁

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you’ve been friends with her for a couple of months, I would TALK to her.  Explain that you already had your wedding invite list set in stone before you met her and that you feel bad that you’re unable to invite her (if, in fact, you do feel bad).  Let her know that your bachelorette is scheduled for whatever weekend and that you planned on going to the drag show and noticed that she’s going to be there too.  At this point, I would probably offer to let her join your group and maybe say, “I just felt awkward inviting you since I’m not able to invite you to the actual wedding.”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If it bothers you that much to have her near and possibly take your friends attention from you, change your plans.  Go do something else in that time frame.
I must say, if this is such an issue, you shouldn’t have allowed your partry in a public place that anybody can have access to.  Have it in a private residence, or book a room in a club or bar for just YOUR party.  It’s pretty hard to dictate who comes and is invited into a public venue.

If you are not willing to change your plans, roll with it.  Let her come hang with your group.  If you cause a stink, you can bet your mutual friend will feel the need to defend Jessica from your Bridezilla moment and likely WILL spend the night apart from the rest.  It’s a party, enjoy it!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Bubu82: I can see you rpoint abou tit being staged…maybe havin g a chat with your Maid/Matron of Honor who is closer to her than you are will shed some light?  It could have been a casual mention “hey why don’t you meet us there”, and Jessica feels uncomfortable “crashing” it which is why she is inviting others.  Maybe she is uncomfortable that she WASN’T invited but really wants to be there but wants a back up plan in case you get pissed off?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Bubu82: Hope it all works out and you have an enjoyable night with your friends!

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