(Closed) Feeling a little put off…(vent)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ugh that’s ridiculous. How much money could it really be. I would be upset too.

Post # 4
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

she sounds incredibly selfish…

get her a framed pic and a card for her wedding. I wouldn’t spend a penny more.

Post # 5
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Very selfish. I would tell her you can’t afford her big lavish party and bachelorette party

Post # 6
1504 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not usually in support of the tit for tat either, but it was rude for her to TELL you and the other bridesmaids exactly what she wanted for a bachelorette party and shower, and then not be willing to do something equivalent for yours. I probably wouldn’t go to her shower or bachelorette. I’d send her a nice reply and say, “I’m glad you mentioned it, I can’t afford to come to your party either. I’m glad we’ll be able to celebrate our weddings together though”.

Post # 7
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow. The bitch in me would tell her the reason you are doing a small gathering was because you had to spend so much money and her and you think its pretty crappy she can’t put in a little more effort when you’re doing everything you are doing.

Post # 8
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010


I’d be peeved, too. 

How do the other BMs feel about the specific bachelorette and shower plans?

Post # 9
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

This type of thing bugs me. I wish people would just say the truth: “I don’t WANT to spend the money on your events.” as opposed to lying about not being able to afford it.


Post # 10
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Whoa. Fiirst am I missing something. How is it s “surprise” if she’s told you to throw her a shower and where and what theme? I bet the only surprise is going to be how much its going to cost you guys.

I can see why your upset.I probably would skip her shower and her bachelorette party. Having a wedding isn’t about getting as much out of your friends as possible.

Post # 11
5653 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

That is annoying… how exactly is it even possible not to be able to afford a sleepover anyway?

Post # 12
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would be more than a little put off if I were you. Can you tell her how you’re feeling about this?

Post # 13
6889 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Agh, I really dislike people who say they “can’t afford” something and then turn around and go buy stuff. I agree with PP I wouldn’t go to either party of hers. 

Post # 14
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

“I’d like to celebrate your life choices, but I’m not going to go broke over them.”

Someone needs to reel her in a little.

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