(Closed) Feeling a little put off…(vent)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

ugh, I have a friend like that– she constantly complains about not having any money, and not attending social events due to that.

and then a week later, I’ll see her post something on facebook about her new flat screen TV or some crap like that.

so annoying! esp when they use it as an excuse to back out of plans.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow, Feeling put off would be an understatement if it were me!! I probably wouldn’t hesitate to tell her the same – that I can’t afford all of her parties after I paid so much for a dress. Agree with PP’s that spending more money on her is not something I would be interested in doing!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

HOLY SHITAKE! She actually suggested that YOU hold off on your low key/low cost sleepover/drinks party until AFTER your wedding so she could attend? If you hadn’t already spent $300 on the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress I would tell her where to go, how to get there and wouldn’t talk to her again! She is a beyatch and obviously a very selfish person who isn’t a true friend!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Also good for you for saying back what you did about seeing photos from her parties since you can’t afford it, that way she is fully aware that you cannot afford to help/attend. Hopefully she realizes what a brat she’s being.

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@PinkPandaBear:

Surprised wow.  Really people don’t realize that you never make money from a wedding?

This girl is crazy. I would dump this friend.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What did she say after the pictures thing?

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She is in lala land and someone needs to bring her back down to earth! I’m sure you are making some sacrifices, both time and money to support her in her upcoming events and she should be doing the same for you. If not, then she is not a real friend.

Post # 41
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Busy Beekeeper

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@PinkPandaBear: YOU HAVE TO keep us updated on this wretched mess. She’s expecting $20K. ROTFLOL

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

She wants you to have your bachelorette party *after* your wedding?! 2 months after your own wedding?! She has gone cukoo-bananas. Do you think this is a product of getting caught up in wedding planning or is this her normal personality? Maybe if it’s the former, you could get the other BMs (who are likely ticked as well) to have a little come to Jesus talk with her? If not, you should cut as many losses as you can & definitely not put time, energy, or money into her mandated events (or wedding gift for that matter…maybe it will put a dent in her wedding “profit”)

Good luck and I second bklynbridetobe: keep us posted on this hot mess!

Post # 43
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Newbee

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@PinkPandaBear: sorry you have to deal with her but if she is not attending your party than why bother going to ther expecially if hers is going to be more expensive…and honestly its not about the money its just the respect that she has for you…no matter if she has no money come on she can come up with a 10 dollar wine bottle or some cake…its just wrong and i understand your frustration i would feel the same way…just let her know u dont have the finances 😉 she get the message this timee 😉

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I’m sorry you have to deal with this hun. Please keep us updated on this situation as it progresses!

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I am breaking a rule, I am going to use the T word.

Telling you and the other BM’s she wants a surprise shower and a bachelorette party is TACKY. A person does not ask for those things, you get them or you don’t, deal with it!

Telling you that she bought this and that and then tells you (after her brazen requests and spending spree) that she can’t afford booze for a sleepover is TACKY.

I know weddings are expensive and so is being in a wedding party, you two are friends. She shouldn’t be buying fancy dresses right now. If the weddings being so close is an issue (financially) why wouldn’t she say “Hey let’s have a double bachelorette party!” and suggest you both have your showers at a BM’s house to keep costs down (especially if the Bridesmaid or Best Man are in both your weddings)

Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@smith2be:  Awesome idea! 

I think this is very disrespectful and selfish of her.  I mean, put aside $20 to bring some coolers and an appie over.  Seriously.

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