Post # 1
So this post is definitely a little pity party for myself.
My Maid/Matron of Honor invited 45 people to my shower. I’m only having one. That list was close family, my close friends, FI’s close female friends, BMs and my mom’s close friends. out of those 45 people only 20 are attending. Actually 19 because I’m one of those 20.
I’m feeling really bummed that so few people are coming and feel a little like a loser that no one wants to come to my shower or has some excuse as to why they can’t. It’s even sadder when people just respond NO but don’t give a reason. Even FI’s step mom isn’t coming.
To make it worse, most of the people attending are my mom’s friends. Now I genuinely really like these ladies but it makes me feel pathetic that my mom has more friends coming to my shower than I do.
Ladies, plese make me feel better. Who came to your shower and what percentage of those invited actually attended?
Post # 3
@Meowkers: I am in the same boat as you and expect atleast 5 of my 18 not to show
Post # 4
I had mostly family at mine since it was in my hometown and my out of town friends had a hike to drive or flights to take. All together I had about 18 people. Did any of these people that said no, already rsvp Yes to the wedding? They still may give you a gift at the wedding though 🙂
Post # 5
I think about 30 were invited, and about 20 attended. It was 90% family, my great-aunties, mom’s cousins, and younger cousins. Only a few of my friends were there, my bridesmaids! I didn’t mind, though, as we were only inviting family and very close friends to the wedding, anyway. We had lots of fun, though, and I like to remind myself how lucky I am to have my grandma, great-aunties and older family members still around and able to celebrate with us.
Post # 6
I know you feel bad about this, I probably won’t have anything other than our moms, aunts, sisters, and cousins at mine. But, I hate when people say that “Someone RSVP’d no, but didn’t give a reason why.” Nobody has to explain to you why they can’t or won’t come to your shower. People have lives and things to do. Maybe they just don’t like showers. I, personally, hate them. I have social anxiety so all showers mean to me is awkwardness.
Just don’t feel like a loser because not everybody could show up. When you invite people to an event, it is likely that only half or less will end up showing, anyway. It’s nothing personal towards you. It’s just that maybe these people had previous plans that can’t be changed, or like I said, maybe they hate these types of gatherings.
Post # 7
Um, I had about 13 people at my shower and thought it was plenty! I think a half return rate is pretty good. There are a lot of events that come up and not everyone can make it to everything. 45 people at a shower would seem pretty large to me.
Post # 8
We will make sure your pity party is well attended! ;-P
Post # 9
There were 4 people at my surprise shower. Feel better?
Post # 10
I think my Maid/Matron of Honor invited just under 40 to my shower and about 20 came. Honestly it was a great day! It was nice because I actually had time to talk to most of the people who came and I still felt like I opened a ton of gifts. Don’t get down because I think you’ll end up having a great time.
Post # 11
I dont’ know how many people will be invited to my shower (i’m having two which freaks me out, but my family is having one and my BM’s are planning a friends one. I would have prefered one, but no one wanted to collaborate!)
Anyway, I had to find a list of friends to invite, and that was 5. one girl i am sure won’t be able to attend because she lives out of town, and 2 are my sister in-laws. so that leaves me with … 2 friends.
Post # 11
I had 10 people at my shower. We had so much fun!!
I feel worse about my bachelorette party. Out of the 20 invited, 4 attended (incl. me and MOH) LOL Maid/Matron of Honor reserved the nicest, largest table in the club, set for 20. I felt pretty loser-y then. I got over it, though!
Post # 12
@Meowkers: I can’t even think of 20 women that will be invited to my shower. To top it off, the women that will be invited live all over the place, scattered across multiple states!
Post # 12
@Meowkers: Don’t feel bad, 20 people is still a pretty good number. I think my invite list was 17 people and that includes my Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) who will not be attending because she lives in another state, and it’s too expensive for her to fly out for both my shower and my wedding. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man is flying home from CA to vacation with her family. She leaves on the day of my shower, so I am not expecting her to come, and I totally understand because she only sees her family twice a year. Most of the guests are from FI’s side of the family. I have a very small family, both sets of grandparents passed away years ago, and I only have my mom who is my best friend, and two Aunt’s who could give a shit about me. So, other than my mom, I don’t really have anyone else on my side. My sister, being that she lives 1700 miles away, was still able to help my mom with my shower, so at least she will be there in spirit. I sometimes worry about people not being able to come, especially since my mom worked really hard. Luckily my mom hasn’t received any regrets yet, but there’s always a chance of people not showing up who never had the decency to call my mom and tell her they aren’t able to make it. Whatever the outcome is on that day, I am not going to let it ruin my happiness.
Post # 13
I think 20 is still a really great turnout. And honestly when you have a summer wedding you have to expect that your showers, stagettes, etc. are going to be not well attended because people are super busy on weekends in the summer. But it will still be a great shower! Don’t get down about it.
Post # 14
@Meowkers: I invited 22 and I’ve about 11 attending (still waiting on a couple RSVPs) so having half of your invite list show up seems to be the norm.
Concentrate on the 19 that are attending. If an invitee replied “no” it is their business as to why they can’t attend and they are not obligated to explain themselves. Be happy they gave you the courtesy of a reply at all, and be happy visiting with those ladies that are able to spend the special day with you.