(Closed) Feeling a little swept under the rug

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Does your fiancé find her behavior evasive and strange? I’d ask him  if he thinks you two should maybe mention it together.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If he also finds it weird and off-putting, then say something together if you wish. I personally leave most of DH’s issues to Darling Husband, as far as family workings. I mention how it makes me feel, he can explain that they’re like that or he calls them out on it, but generally it’s up to him.

It does sound a bit strange, but maybe she’s just like that?

If it makes you feel any better, my Mother-In-Law didn’t even manage to make it to our wedding, much less congratulate us, and then later was being all attention-whore-y about how “upset” she was that she missed it. She even managed to fake cry. Lol.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If this really bothers you; could maybe your Fiance talk to her?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

My Future Mother-In-Law did the same to me. I honestly just ignore her, sometimes it is hard for them to let go. She will come around, sooner or later.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hmm well when we got engaged his mothers response was well we didn’t feel right about telling him  no since we started dating and were married in 6 months (we’re engaged in 4 months but will not be married for yet another year) I took this as off but as time went on she warmed up to it really fast and within a month she was even trying to help me plan! I am thinking that she may still be in shell shock on this? I would give it some time and perhaps talk to Fiance about it as he probably knows his mom better than you do.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law, dosent seem very excited about our wedding either but attends all of his familys wedding events with a big smile on her face… She dosent speak english- so I guess this could be why, but I have known her for 7 years. Im just letting it go, I figure its just how she is.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How old are you?  Some moms have trouble letting go of their kids until they are MUCH older!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@S.Elizabeth.G:  like many FMIL’s before her, she hates your guts. It’s probably not your fault, no woman would ever be good enough for her baby. Just get used to ignoring her stupid barbed comments and get on with your life–it’s not your problem.

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