- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
this is a two-fer. First off, lets go back in time (squidly do squidley do squidley do) to the wedding planning part. The cost of the wedding was divided up between myself, DH, and MIL. My MIL was getting ideas from me, because she lived next to where the wedding was going to take place, and we were 12 hours away. So I mentioned I wanted chair covers. You would have thought I suggested we serve our guests on fine china and crystal! I was consistantly being bombarded with “that’s not necessary” and “you don’t really need that” from both of them on alot of items, amd quit a few times on the chair covers. So I bought them anyway with my money knowing that I could sell them after and get some of my money back. Everyone loved them and was so amazing at how it completely transformed the room! Now, she wants to borrow them for a function for her friend, who also had done my center pieces for a resonalbe cost, so yeah. The thing is, I know I’m not getting those chair covers back. (yes, I really do know, she will continue to use them for her friends functions- she’s a retired event co-ordinator, but wants to stay in the loop.) It just irks me!! Not only am I not going to get my money back, I caught hell from her and my husband for buying them in the first place, and they are her new toy! No, I didn’t say anything, and I’m not going to, because in the grand scheme of things it’s best to just let this one go, but until I do, I just need to let off some steam.
Moving along, my husband’s ex wants to tell me that my husband needs to be more sensitive-towards his children. Granted, you could argue that she is right. But isn’t that a matter of opinion? I think he is a good father to his children. Heck, it’s one of the reasons why I married him, considering, I want children! They always get into these who is the better parent fights when they talk, and it makes me feel like punching them both in the face. There is some tension between his and his oldest due to a rift that happened in the family two years ago, and I mean a earth shattering, life changing, rift that split the family apart. They still have not fully recovered, and his son still has not yet been held accountable for his actions, nor has he appologized. I am the go between for my husband and his ex, because they litterally cannot talk without fighting, and when they fight, we fight. I am always nice and cordial, and always say I will talk to him about that when she has suggestions. But she critiqued my husbands parenting again and I lost my temper. The thing is, if you want my opinion, I think she is an instigator, and a poor mom for not holding her son accountable for what he had done, along with other mishaps, But I don;t say it.
Sorry so long. Seething right now!