(Closed) feeling alone planning

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re smart to start planning now, you will need the full year the plan, trust me!! Unfortunately what you’re feeling is very normal. It’s a huge letdown, but people aren’t going to be as excited about your wedding as you are, and you’ll have to hear opinions about EVERYTHING. That being said, you and your Fiance will survive! Keep being there for each other and try to plan as much as you can with just you and him. You can’t make everyone happy, and that’s ok because your wedding is a celebration of you and your FI’s marriage, don’t get lost in the drama that others will throw in your way. As for your Maid/Matron of Honor – tell her the color you chose & a price range, and ask her to pick out 5 dress styles that she likes. Narrow it down to 2-3 you like and have all the bridesmaids vote on one. The best thing you can do is protect yourself from as much stress as possible. Enjoy this time with your Fiance and don’t worry about everyone else! Smile

Post # 5
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well I can tell you that you are absolutely NOT rushing planning your wedding.

 

I already have a date, venue, dress, photographer, and cake baker… and my wedding is farther away than yours… and NOBODY has told me I’m planning too fast. The truth is that I’m actually having to fight for dates because October is such a popular month to get married!! My first choice date was already taken at the venue! AND I had to fight to get myself on the schedule for the cake lady b/c she normally only does 1 cake a day and already had one scheduled for that day!

 

I find it helps to tell people that I’m having to fight for dates. When I tell them that, they don’t question my planning things so early.

Post # 7
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6212 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

You are NOT rushing. It sucks to feel like people aren’t excited, but they just don’t feel as urgently as you do. I used to feel like my mom wasn’t that excited for anything, when really she just had a lot more immediate things to think about than my wedding next year, even though we had already booked a venue. When I handed her a save the date and made a dress appointment, she totally turned around because it became real for her. Just give them time to get excited.

As for your maid of honor, it’s best to keep things a little more secret, and then present a few options to choose from. If you ask her opinion about everything, it gives her the idea that she has more control than you want to give her.

Post # 8
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@fall_13:  well you are ahead of me 😛

 

hehe

Post # 9
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915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I feel pretty alone too. My mom doesn’t listen to any of my ideas but then as soon as someone else suggests anything to her, even if it’s something I’ve already talked to her about, she thinks it’s the greatest idea ever. It’s incredibly frustrating. 

Post # 10
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1544 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i’m right there with you.

Its really just me in this. i don’t have a million friends to help… all my family and friends are 9 hours away. No one cared in the beginning… now that its only 8 months they care a little more but they still say i’m doing things too early. engaged in feb – wedding in june. Fiance is great but theres still ALOT of things he just can’t help me on.

Post # 12
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@fall_13:  aw you’re welcome : ) & wow you have a lot done! I wish I had that much done a year out my wedding – you made your life sooo much easier, don’t let anyone give you crap about it lol! Best of luck to you, I’m sure everything will turn out beautifully!

Post # 14
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Kate0558:   It’s crazy how lonely wedding planning can feel, I can’t imagine being 9hrs away from fam/friends. Glad that your Fiance is trying to help though, maybe if there aren’t wedding tasks he can help with, you could ask him to help more with household errands/chores? On the bright side, finally having all your family and friends with you that day will feel amazing!

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