(Closed) Feeling ambushed! Need some advice… wedding date approaching

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

What is this, The Brady Girls Get Married?  I wouldn’t want to share my wedding with someone else. 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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smile111:  Not selfish at all. Tell her that you felt ambushed by her raising the idea in public, and that having had time to think about it, the two of you have decided that you will stick to your original plan. If she is truly concerned about family having to travel, she is welcome to plan her wedding for the weekend after yours. That way most family will be able to make one trip for both weddings.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

No, it’s not selfish at all. I could see lots of problems that could arise with trying to plan a wedding day with two couples. If that’s not what you want, do not feel bad or pressured at all.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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smile111:  You are not at all selfish.  I’d be mortified to be ambushed like that – your Fiance did well to respond so tactfully.    There is no way I’d want to share a wedding – especially with someone who approached the matter as she did – I can’t imagine how the plans would deteriorate with her involved.  I’m so sorry this happened. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I can’t believe someone would suggest sharing your wedding, PUBLICLY.  You’re not being selfish at all.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

” hey cousin! So anyhoo, Fi and I have been talking about the double wedding idea and we’ve decided not to go that route and stick to our original vision for our day. It’s going to be awesome having you around to bounce ideas and pick the best ones! yay! We’re both getting married! Congrats on your engagement again. Ok, byeee!”

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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smile111:  one word of caution: once you say no she may just try to get her invites out and have her wedding a few days/weeks before yours to where it won’t be possible for your out of town family to be able to travel again so quickly. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yep 

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leekissesme:  is right. Get your stds out like yesterday!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

NO effing way, bee! She was completely out of line.

It’s YOUR day. She has a set of elephant balls, if you ask me!

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