Post # 1
I’m not sure what my issue is… and I’m wondering if it has anything to do with being newly married.
Darling Husband and I have been together for 5 years… but for some reason, I’m finding myself socially drained lately. I don’t want to reach out to friends, etc. My close friends – yes, I see, hang out, etc. But my extended group – not so much.
Case in point – a friend asked me if I could watch her 2 year old daughter tomorrow (an uncle died and they don’t want to take her to the reception). My ‘old’ self would jump in a heartbeat to help – esp. for a situation like this… but this new, selfish, crazy-self doesn’t want to do it. (And, if it matters, it’s not even during a time I’d be spending with Darling Husband – so I know that’s not a factor (meaning, spending time with him)).
What the heck is wrong with me?!?!? Has anyone else noticed withdrawing a bit from people they otherwise would not have (before marriage)?
Post # 3
I’m kinda on the other end of the spectrum. My BFF has totally been MIA since she got married in October. I’m not sure what it is exactly, but she has made herself less available (doesnt answer texts, phone calls etc…)
Maybe its just an adjustment period?
Post # 4
@oracle: Totally with you. I think it’s just “nesting” instincts. Darling Husband and I have been together for 5 years, living together for ages, so it’s not like this is some new living situation for us, but I’d rather be nowhere than home. Seriously. I just want to be here, on my couch, with Darling Husband. I don’t care what else happens, who’s having a party, who wants us to come for dinner, I like to be here together. If people show up and want to have dinner with us, fine, whatever, but don’t ask me to leave my house, LOL! I’m not going to over think it though, I’m content being withdrawn from the world 😉
Post # 5
Totally. I felt just so drained after the wedding and honeymoon I didn’t want to do anything but sit at home for months. We’re not even travelling anywhere this year even though we have a lot of vacation time we need to use before the end of the year, and that’s very unusual for us. We’re slowly forcing ourselves to socialize more now because it’s scary how fast we fell into the boring married couple routine.
Post # 6
I’m glad that I’m not the only one. Darling Husband left today for a snowboarding weekend with some friends. Rather than jumping on the chance to go out with some friends tonight, I’m curling up at home relaxing with a glass of wine and some bad TV. And, I plan to be a homebody all weekend and am quite looking forward to it! (But…I was thinking about getting out for a bit, at least to treat myself to a massage ).
No worries….nothing is wrong with you! Sounds like many of us are in a stay-at-home funk.
Post # 7
Oh, it’s so nice to hear from everyone! The more I thought about it, the more I realized how I was turning into a total home-body (and didn’t mind it one bit). I have been forcing myself to go out (for major events – like b’days) and I do enjoy it when I’m out… but getting there is a battle!
I also ended up deciding to offer to take care of my friend’s child… but it turns out the funeral date changed, so I’m off the hook! 🙂
Phew… leaving work and going home to hubby!! Yahoo! Marriage has given me a whole new understanding of “there’s no place like home”. 🙂
Post # 8
Yes! Totally! I have always been somewhat of a homebody and we lived together for awhile before we got married, but for some reason both of us are very bound to home ever since we got married. We just enjoy being here by ourselves so even sometimes when his parents want us to come over for dinner (which is very nice that they invite us, so we realize we should be thankful) we just groan to each other about how we were already thinking about what we were cooking and blah blah blah. It is funny because before the wedding we hung out with people all of the time and now not so much. We still see friends, but much less often than we did before. At least we don’t look totally mean because most of our friends just graduated college and are very busy themselves.
I do keep in touch with my friends – I will sit at the kitchen table and talk to them on the phone so more so than hang out with anyone I will just do that. I did just spend the day with my girlfriend yesterday and omg I was so exhausted haha