- 3 years ago
Hi! I’m really new to this site, but so far I have seen nothing but wonderful people helping out- let me get straight to the point;
I have been with my BF for almost 3 years (3 years on my birthday Dec. 22), and I am so in love with him. We’ve had our obvious ups and downs, but are now in our 2nd place together. We’ve learned how we both deal with conflict and I feel like our relationship has been super positive. We have talked about getting married before, but I feel like I’m the one who always initiates it. I was worried about ever bringing it up until our 2 year anniversary- I told him, “We’ve been together for two years, I think it’s time we had ‘the talk.'” I asked if he had thought about marrying me at all and he said that he had, but only a ittle bit. We both agreed that we wanted to get married some day, just not yet. He wanted everything to be “in place” (finances, living situation, etc.) to which I told him, “nothing will ever be perfectly in place. I don’t want to buy a house before getting engaged, he would prefer to, he wants us to have a specific amount of money in both of our accounts for a specific amount of time, etc…. Fast forward to a month ago, we moved into a new apartment and decided to celebrate with tequila shots. We were definitely under the influence and we were having a really emotional talk about the night we met. Then out of nowhere he blurts out, “I just want you to know that I have been thinking about marrying you a lot.” It was a total shocker to me. I asked him the next morning if he remembered our conversation, and he said yes. So I dropped it. Since that talk, my grandmother (who doesn’t usually use Facebook) added me to a wedding planning/advice group on facebook without any context, and then today, my mother sends me a song to listen to that she said, “would be perfect for a daddy/daughter dance at your wedding.”
Does my family know something that I don’t?
Side note: I find myself feeling super jealous and sad when I see friends on facebook getting engaged after being with their SO for a shorter amount of time than me/my SO. Which is totally great! I’m happy for them, but I still feel that pang of sadness because I so feel ready to take the next step and my boyfriend seems to kind of ignore any gentle nudge I give him that I would 100% say yes. How do I deal with this?