- 8 years ago
I don’t quite know where to start so I’ll just go at it. About a month ago SO and I had a long talk about the future.
Basically at the beginning of May 2012 I will no longer be working for the place I’m currently working for and will no longer have ties to my current city. He wants to move south (weather) while I’m basically looking at whatever will give me a job. Either way he wants to move in together wherever we end up. I am waiting for the ring.
He gave me his own timeline – without my asking – that we would be engaged by May. I explained to him that I liked he gave me a timeline, because I had been tired of waiting but it was made easier by the fact I had a goal. And to make his life easier and no missed timelines I told him jewelry is expensive – I would be ok with a mossy or even no ring at all (not the jewelry type) and if he went the custom route it would more than likely take several weeks; don’t be surprised.
However I’m not feeling too good about the timeline. Something is just nagging at me he won’t do it. And then there’s the apathy. I did feel excited at first but then I set my own (private) date that was, to me, an “I’m done dealing with bull and if you don’t know now you never will.” My walkout date is June 1.
We had gone ring shopping in November to get a sense of styles and talked about it a couple times. I showed him a few things I liked and that was that. I feel like the end of May would give him 18 months of considering engagement and if he doesn’t know… well I don’t want to waste my time.
Basically am I feeling apathetic because I set my walkout date? Because my gut might be right and he won’t propose? Or am I just Stage 3 Waiting?
ETA: He knows I want to be engaged before living together.