Post # 1
Hello my beautiful bees!
I’ve been thinking about the pros and cons of a bridal shower lately. Where I’m from/ in my family the bridal shower is for giving girly gifts like lingere and lotions etc. Well I’m a plus size girl obviously…a size 24 and I would be MORTIFIED at the thought of people trying to find lingere in anything close to my size. So my gut instinct is to skip the whole thing but my mom was disappointed when I told her. Do any of you plus size bees have advice? Did you skip it or go through the torture of gift opening praying no one bought u a huge nightie?
Post # 3
How about sending out the word via your shower hostess?? Something along the lines that “please no intimates; family members will be present!”
I personally wouldn’t want my family members or my mom around while I’m opening up lingerie!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Could you suggest a spa-oriented shower instead… still girly, but people can give you luxurious spa products and gift certificates for treatments and fuzzy robes and things like that.
Post # 5
Have your Mom and Maid/Matron of Honor spread the word that you would prefer a “theme” shower
e.g kitchen, time of day, picnic, wine cellar, cookbook or a couples shower.
Post # 6
Maybe suggest a different theme? If its say, a kitchen themed shower people will bring kitchen oriented gifts not lingerie
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort
Plus sized or not, I would never dream of trying to guess anyone’s size, I always opt for a gc. Buying intimates is a personal thing anyway, in my opinion.
Post # 8
I’m not plus size but I would NOT want an intimate shower with so many other women around either. Bridal showers here are typical registry items or smaller household items. I thought a lingerie shower was something reserved for the bachelorette party? Not sure how it works but yeah, maybe have the hostess state on the invitations what kind of shower it is so people can steer clear of the lingerie.
Post # 9
I’m a size 22/24, and I have plenty of lingerie that is not of the “huge nightie” variety. Just putting that out there.
Regardless of your size, though, if you’re uncomfortable with a lingerie shower, just put the word out on that.
Post # 10
I would be SOOO uncomfirtable with an “intimates” bridal shower! OMG!!!
I like the idea of having a different theme!! If you like the kitchen theme, it would be neat to have the hostess send each guest a recipe card with the invitation. Have the guests fill them out with their fave. recipe and bring them to the shower. One of your maids can put them into a cookbook for you 🙂
I also like the idea of having a spa related party. Maybe you can find someone to come give everyone a mini or pedi, or have a MaryKay or Avon salesperson come so you can all learn how to do a facial or something.
Post # 11
In Australia we have what is called a “kitchen tea” party which is kind of like a bridal shower except that people buy you things for the kitchen.
I agree with @vickyness: though, it would be so easy to put that wording on your invitations and then have no confusion at all.
Post # 12
@mrsSonthebeach: I LOVE this idea!
I was a plus-size bride and I would have felt the same way. I received lots of gifts from our registry and only lingerie from my mom (go figure). It didn’t really fit but I didn’t say anything to offend her.
Post # 13
In my area and circle of friends, what’s common is a themed kitchen shower. There are different themes (a friend did cupcakes, so all the game prizes had to do with bakign cupcakes, the dessert was Crumbs cupcakes, the centerpeices were big baskets to bake cupcakes; another friend did candy, so there was a candy bar and candy centerpieces; another friend had a very casual tea party) but all the brides register for house items. We don’t do the lingerie until the bachelorette party. And, the way everyone knows to bring kitchen stuff is that the bride registers and the registry is put on the invite. I know some bees think this is bad etiquette and is gift grabby, but showers are thrown for the purpose of showering a bride with gifts, so I think it’s helpful to your guests to tell them exactly what you want! So, my advice is – throw a shower, pick a theme, register for the gifts you want and enjoy your day. 🙂
Post # 14
Yeah, I agree, put on the invite that it’s a “non” intimates thing. And if you have a registry, don’t register for that stuff.