(Closed) Feeling Awkward about a Bridal Shower…

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How about sending out the word via your shower hostess?? Something along the lines that “please no intimates; family members will be present!”

I personally wouldn’t want my family members or my mom around while I’m opening up lingerie!

Post # 4
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Could you suggest a spa-oriented shower instead… still girly, but people can give you luxurious spa products and gift certificates for treatments and fuzzy robes and things like that.

Post # 5
46374 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have your Mom and Maid/Matron of Honor spread the word that you would prefer a “theme” shower

e.g kitchen, time of day, picnic, wine cellar, cookbook or a couples shower.


Post # 6
5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe suggest a different theme? If its say, a kitchen themed shower people will bring kitchen oriented gifts not lingerie

Post # 7
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort

Plus sized or not, I would never dream of trying to guess anyone’s size, I always opt for a gc. Buying intimates is a personal thing anyway, in my opinion.

Post # 8
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m not plus size but I would NOT want an intimate shower with so many other women around either.  Bridal showers here are typical registry items or smaller household items.  I thought a lingerie shower was something reserved for the bachelorette party?  Not sure how it works but yeah, maybe have the hostess state on the invitations what kind of shower it is so people can steer clear of the lingerie.

Post # 9
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m a size 22/24, and I have plenty of lingerie that is not of the “huge nightie” variety. Just putting that out there. 

Regardless of your size, though, if you’re uncomfortable with a lingerie shower, just put the word out on that. 

Post # 10
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would be SOOO uncomfirtable with an “intimates” bridal shower! OMG!!!

I like the idea of having a different theme!! If you like the kitchen theme, it would be neat to have the hostess send each guest a recipe card with the invitation. Have the guests fill them out with their fave. recipe and bring them to the shower. One of your maids can put them into a cookbook for you 🙂

I also like the idea of having a spa related party. Maybe you can find someone to come give everyone a mini or pedi, or have a MaryKay or Avon salesperson come so you can all learn how to do a facial or something.




Post # 11
3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

In Australia we have what is called a “kitchen tea” party which is kind of like a bridal shower except that people buy you things for the kitchen. 

I agree with @vickyness:  though, it would be so easy to put that wording on your invitations and then have no confusion at all. 

Post # 12
8883 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@mrsSonthebeach:  I LOVE this idea!

I was a plus-size bride and I would have felt the same way. I received lots of gifts from our registry and only lingerie from my mom (go figure). It didn’t really fit but I didn’t say anything to offend her.

Post # 13
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

In my area and circle of friends, what’s common is a themed kitchen shower.  There are different themes (a friend did cupcakes, so all the game prizes had to do with bakign cupcakes, the dessert was Crumbs cupcakes, the centerpeices were big baskets to bake cupcakes; another friend did candy, so there was a candy bar and candy centerpieces; another friend had a very casual tea party) but all the brides register for house items. We don’t do the lingerie until the bachelorette party.  And, the way everyone knows to bring kitchen stuff is that the bride registers and the registry is put on the invite.  I know some bees think this is bad etiquette and is gift grabby, but showers are thrown for the purpose of showering a bride with gifts, so I think it’s helpful to your guests to tell them exactly what you want!  So, my advice is – throw a shower, pick a theme, register for the gifts you want and enjoy your day.  🙂

Post # 14
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, I agree, put on the invite that it’s a “non” intimates thing. And if you have a registry, don’t register for that stuff.

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