Post # 1
While my account is new I’ve lurked around here for ages, reading and absorbing everything I could. I never thought I would get married (simply because everyone in my family gets divorced and I never thought I’d like anyone enough to take that plunge) but now my boyfriend is talking about marriage in the future and wants to know what sort of engagement rings I’d like or look at.
It’s something I’ve considered for the past few days. I’ve poured over the Peoples website, looked in store, looked at gemstone rings, looked at moissy rings in the threads here and on the moissyco and somehow … I feel like I’m doing something wrong. I love the rings and find them all gorgeous …. but on other people. You see, I’ve never been a fan of rings that have gems that stick out, nor have I ever been a fan of rings that have giant gems when it comes to things I have to wear. I’m fairly active with a fairly hands-on job and those sort of rings get caught on things and frustrate me. The only rings I wear on a regular basis are tiny 0.8mm yellow and rose gold bands, stacked together on my right hand.
I think I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not a fan of the normal type of engagement rings and I feel like I’m doing something wrong as a girl. I grew up a tomboy and it’s only the past year that I feel I’ve “come into my own as a woman” and the fact that this part is not clicking with me makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong.
Do any of you ladies have non-traditional e-rings? Maybe without big gems or settings that lift the gem above the finger? I feel really awkward and bad about it 🙁
Post # 3
Welcome!!! Don’t feel guilty about wanting a non-traditional ring. My suggestion would be to look on Etsy. They have tons of stuff that is unique and not terribly priced either!
This is just an example but look around! It doesn’t even have to be a diamond (mine will be a blue sapphire). Ask your SO if he’s ok with you picking out the ring, or maybe you can pick it out together.
Good luck and congrats on your (almost) engagement!!!! 🙂
Post # 4
I am a huge etsy fan and it’s part of the reason I know I can get very petite, simple little rings I like. I’m just worried that it’ll look funny to him and/or my family, too. I don’t want them to think that he cheaped out when I really hate such jewelry haha.
And thanks 🙂
Post # 5
I dont know why you would feel bad about it!! Its all a matter of tastes!! I think you should look at some of the rings on Etsy. They have alot of completely different types of rings and you might get a better idea. Just keep searching!
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Ah Etsy is such a wonderful place! If you get people dissing your ring just say “We picked it out together to represent our love, which is unique, just like my ring,” or something like that. People just love mushy stuff like that 😉 A lot of people are doing the non-traditional ring these days so you might not meet as much resistance.
Post # 8
@bippy: There’s nothing wrong with you. We all have different styles and preferences. It sounds like you’re wanting something with a low profile. I did a quick search and found these:
Flush set diamond in a hammered band from brilliant earth. You might want to research flush settings, they are the ultimate low profile!
This is a low profile solitaire from Cheyenne Weil of gin and butterflies on etsy. This might work for you, too!
You’re not awkward. You’re unique. Never feel bad about that.
Post # 9
Two options if you do want a gem/diamond:
1. You could try a bezel setting. That won’t stick up over your finger, really. I don’t think People’s really has anything like that though….most of their rings are more the traditional idea (solitaires, etc). Maybe try a smaller jewelry store in your area to see if they have any bezel settings?
2. What about an eternity band with either diamonds or a gem you like?
Post # 10
@JessMorgan777: Beat me to it!
Bezel would be a great way to get a low profile protected setting that won’t stick out too much for you.
Post # 11
@bippy: Don’t feel awkward or bad about wanting an engagement ring that fits your personality and lifestyle, no matter how un-traditional it may be. One of my favorite e-rings I’ve ever seen was a simple, beautiful band of yellow diamonds – small ones, going all the way around. When she got married, she put a diamond band on either side. Simple and stunning.
Bottom line – you are going to wear this ring for the rest of your life. If you and your future hubby love it, that’s all that matters. Stick with what you want, and just know that there are many Bees on this site that are eager to help you shop!
Post # 12
I’m getting married in a couple of weeks. I’m the girly type and so I have the fab ring. My partner is not the same. She’s into non-traditional rings. A jeweler on etsy made my partner’s ring and she absolutely loves it. What ever you decide, there is no right and wrong- it’s all about you and what you want and feel comfortable with. I also know that her ring is completely custom and one of a kind!
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX
@LiliKitty: Ha! I is GoogleMaster..lol! j/k
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Welcome to the bee!!
My day-of coordinator wears just an eternity band instead of an engagement ring/wedding band set. It looks beautiful and very simple and elegant. It looks something like this:
I ordered a very similar band for my wedding band, and alone without an engagement band, it looks like this:
Anyways, just an idea! But I don’t think you’re crazy at all, I understand and I think you and your boyfriend should choose a ring that is YOU.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
While I ended up with a fairly traditional ring, I found ring shopping to be incredibly frustrating. I actually said on several occasions that the rings I kept seeing were “too sparkly”. I mean, really, who says that? Shouldn’t someone come pull my girl card for saying that crap? I felt like a bit of a girl failure. ugh
The good news is that 1) you can be engeged without wearing a ring, if that is what works best for you, and 2) you can wear whatever ring floats your boat, if that is what you want. You may want to look at Turtle Love for some very nice, unique, and low profile options (http://www.turtleloveco.com/Serenity_4mm_Diamond_Engagement_Ring_p/ps-r7rd4.htm or http://www.turtleloveco.com/Rose_Gold_Vine_Ring_with_Diamonds_p/mfw-rtw1d-r.htm). Or maybe a pretty band from Gemvara (loads of custom options).
Post # 16
Thank you so much ladies. The only person I had to bounce these things off of was my (incredibly) girly sister and she loves huge rings and sparkle and couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t as into it.
@Miss Wallaby that actually looks so cute. I’m a fan of petite little rings that can stack!