(Closed) Feeling awkward about this…I accidentally picked the same ring as his cousin!

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

If I were you, I would point it out to her when you see her next and make light fun of it like, “great minds think alike”. Really there’s no reason for anyone to get upset, an Ering is super personal and honestly no two rings are exactly alike because diamonds are like snowflakes anyway.

Post # 17
10354 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

About a gazillion people have a setting almost exactly like that. Honestly, you could get it at almost any jeweler. And, the different diamond shape really sets it apart. It you had gotten a plain band solitaire, with different diamond cuts, you probably wouldn’t feel this way. I think your setting is the modern equivalent – bands with diamonds like that are everywhere, so you really shouldn’t feel embarrassed.

Post # 19
15457 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Round.. cushion, single prong.. double prong, white gold.. yellow gold.  Sounds different enough to me!!  I doubt even she would notice its *exactly* the same ring based on your picture since so many are similar to that.

Post # 20
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think with the gold difference, prong and stone shapes being different..they are really DIFFERENT enough ! and you have nothing to even worry about

act like you dont even know/didnt notice 


gorgeous by the way

Post # 21
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@pinkshoes: Yeah.

“The only difference is that mine is white gold and hers is yellow, and mine is a double-prong set cushion center and hers is single-prong set round”. So…. the only thing in common is that it’s a solitaire? You and millions of other women will have that much in common.

Post # 22
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Considering the gold color, cut and prong configuration are ALL differen AND that she’s been married so long, I would bet money that she won’t care at all! Enjoy your new ring without feeling guilty.

Post # 23
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

They dont sound like exactly the same ring so I really wouldnt worry about it, besides alot of e-rings look alike

Post # 24
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think they sound different enough– I wouldn’t worry about it. 🙂 If you do tell her, make sure she knows that you didn’t realize it was the same setting when you picked it out. Really, though, a lot of girls have similar settings, so she might not even notice their similarities. You know, it could’ve been a sort of subconscious thing– it could’ve affected your taste without you consciously realizing you were choosing a ring similar to hers. Don’t feel bad! 🙂

Post # 25
11161 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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@moderndaisy: This is a great idea! Totally breaks the ice IF there were any concerns. I think they are different enough no one will really say anything.

Post # 26
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

whatever.  there are some differences so whats the big deal?  Unless you both have a super unique ring it doesnt really matter.  Nobody will be able to tell and even if they do who cares.  Essentially all our rings are very similar.  Diamond with some or no details with some or no other diamonds or whatever on some sort of metal/gold band.  In the end I don’t think anyone will care or notice.

Post # 27
1325 posts
Bumble bee

You know, there are a gazillion women getting engaged but there’s only 1/2 a gazillion settings to choose from.  Enjoy your ring!

Post # 28
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mine and my SIL’s look almost the same with the white gold, solitare, and princess cut. However, I think that they look completely different because I have a more rounded band and a plain white wedding band. I may have tried that ring on a few times in the days before my brother proposed and became obsessed with the shape and style. It really doesn’t matter since I absolutely adore the ring that my husband designed and the stone he picked for it.

Post # 29
36 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have had two friends, before they got engaged, tell me “i want a ring just like yours!” they both are now engaged with rings that are “just like mine.”  both went for different stones (mine is round brilliant and theirs are both princess), and the settings are not exactly the same, but they are very very similar -and i don’t mind one bit!  personally, i think its a)a compliment to me since they liked mine and b)bound to happen just out of chance, because my style of ring seems to be very popular right now. 

no need to say anything at all.  when you see her, play it off like it was a total coincidence, because…it was!!!  don’t let it stress you out…i am sure she’ll get a kick out of it.

Post # 30
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s a fairly popular ring design so I don’t think she can be upset!  Plus, you have different metals and diamond shapes – don’t worry about it!

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