Post # 1
I’m wondering if anyone else feels like this or if it’s just me. I just don’t feel right in social situations, I feel like everyone is staring at me, I don’t know what to say, I don’t know how to hold my hands, how to sit etc. I used to be quite outgoing but now I dread anything in a social sense. I feel like no-one really wants to talk to me and no-one is drawn to me at social events. What to do?
Post # 3
yep i almost always do, but i’ve never been outgoing. part of it is just that i’m an introverted person and i don’t like to talk about myself but sometimes i do have anxiety about social situations/the awkwardness i percieve to be involved
Post # 4
It could be an anxiety issue that you can talk to a therapist about, especially since you said that you used to be outgoing.
Post # 5
@Vikstar: I have the exact same problem. Group therapy really did wonders for me though. It took everyone else saying “What? You’re not awkward.” and “I always feel awkward too.” for me to realize that it was just something that I percieved myself to be. I have my moments, but now I try to just live and not wonder what others think about me.
Post # 6
@Vikstar: Always and forever… I’m starting to turn into a hermit because the only people I don’t feel awkward around are on the other side of the world. I used to be really outgoing too and sometimes I can get into the mood for it but I lose energy really fast and then feel awkward again and just want to go home.
I’m really thankful that Fiance is a bit of a homebody as well and not an avid partier.
Post # 7
I’ve always been awkward around people I don’t know or aren’t comfortable with. I kind of just read the title of your post and went “ooo! awkward! I’m good at that!”
Post # 8
It’s definitely tough to be an introvert in a world that prizes extroversion.
Post # 9
I completely agree about the world prizing extroversion. Never thought of it that way before, but you’re 100% right
Post # 10
Word! I always feel like people are staring at and judging me. It’s usually just when I’m by myself though, like when I’m out running errands. I’m really pathetic though because I feel that way mostly around people my age and even highschool age kids (I’m 26). Like…highschool age kids are just that…kids. Why do I care what they think?
However, when I’m with friends or especially DH, I’m all “hheeeyyy! Check me out! I don’t give a f*** what you think about me!”
Post # 11
Aw, thanks for replying ladies. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only person who feels like this.
I’m wondering if it is a self esteem thing, like Fall In Love22 said I also feel like people are staring at and judging me even moreso when I am by myself. Maybe therapy could help like some of you have suggested.
How have you all handled your wedding/engagement feeling like this? My SO and I are opting for a very intimate wedding with immediately family only which should make me feel a lot more comfortable and confident.