(Closed) Feeling bad about my wedding dress/nervous to see wedding pics

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 1
Member
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Okay, so I just got married and am waiting for pro pics. I am feeling very insecure and slightly embarrassed after seeing some of the guest pics from the reception.

 

I wear a 32DD bra, and let’s just say there was more cleavage than I wanted, and in the pics, more than I thought I was showing.

 

It is virtually impossible for me NOT to have cleavage, especially in a strapless dress. However, I could have done better. I feel the cleavage was borderline inappropriate. Here’s what happened:

 

1. Bought the dress on sale a year out. It fit in the chest and was a little loose at the waist (was then a large 32C/small 32D). I had planned to have the waist taken in to fit. However, I gained weight (up to a large 32DD). I lost the weight just in time for the wedding, but boobs stayed at a large 32D/small DD even though I was down to the starting weight. Waist was slightly loose, but had a back-tying bow that cinched it in enough without alterations.

 

2. Bought a longline bra to smooth the tummy and help keep the dress up. It, of course, put the girls on more of a display that I would have liked. However, the option of no bra (too jiggly), or a strapless regular bra (to insecure/would ride down) was not an option.

 

3. I was on a strict budget and could NOT buy another dress. I did not have time for alterations at the end (especially trying to let out the bust, which would not have helped it COVER more, it just would have fallen down).

 

Of course, people told me I was beautiful, and they LOVED my dress… but to my taste, it was way too revealing, and even though the girls and the neckline were completely secure, it LOOKED precarious to me. Especially in low, directional lighting with flash :-/

 

It is bad enough that even though I love what is HAPPENING in the posted photos from friends, I kind of want to un-tag them all and hope the pros got more flattering shots.

 

I am not sure if I want to post a photo…. I have a feeling all you bees will agree with me, which will only make things worse.

 

Meh. End rant.

 

Post # 3
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4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@MsBlackberry:  You know everyone is going to ask you to post a pic!

Two things from my experience:

1. It always looks worst to you, especially when you’re looking down at the  girls.

2.  People told me “WHOA” about my cleavage, so if people told you you looked nice I’m sure that’s true.  My dress was also secure and I was comfortable in it but hey, people don’t know that looking at you.  It really doesn’t bother me.

Post # 4
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1467 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MsBlackberry:  It’s so okay! Your wedding is a time when you can be wicked sexy if you want to! (Well maybe you didn’t want to, but maybe thinking of it as sexy instead of what you’re thinking now could help) As long as there were no Janet Jackson oopsies I am sure you looked amazing! 

And share a picture!!! Please!!!

Post # 5
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6208 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Pics or it didn’t happen! 

Anyway, I think it was probably fine. It’s the culture, now, anyway, to have the girls on display. 

Post # 6
Member
317 posts
Helper bee

@MsBlackberry:  32DDs be damned!! I have them too and understand your concern. I’m wondering if could mention it to your photographer and he/she could try to select photos for your album that don’t show a lot of cleavage?

Post # 7
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mseagles:  I have seen just a couple teaser images…. none of them show the cleavage in a bad light. They are outdoor shots, and since I am fairly pale, my skin blends in with the dress enough for it to lessen the “whoa boobies!” effect.

Post # 8
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsBlackberry:  I’m more worried about the reception images, since those are where all the guest photos were taken, and I look incredibly tan and boobalicious… not the look I was going for!

Post # 9
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11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MsBlackberry:  I definitely can relate to you post. This happened to me in certain photos, too.

I bought a dress based on my measurements and what the designer had in terms of size that would accommodate them, but I was nervous even ordering my dress since I could not try on a gown in my size.

I ended up with some pics showing cleavage and others having a “double chest” effect, especially while seated. I actually chose NOT to wear the recommended longline bra for the very reason you noted — it pushes the bust UP and OUT of the top of the dress, and there was no way I was going to not have support, so I wore a traditional strapless bra instead. That ended up causing wrinkles and lines to appear on the bodice of my dress, which I definitely was not happy to see in my pro pics.

Believe it or not, I still  have not started on my wedding albums (notice my wedding date?) because of this issue and the fact that I need to find someone to Photoshop many of my images for me. (My photographer doesn’t do that type of editing but does not mind if I have someone else do it for me.)

I hope your pictures turn out to be much better than you fear. If not, I hope your photographer is able to edit the images for you.

Post # 10
Member
526 posts
Busy bee

It happened to me too, I cried at the pro pics of my “porn boobs” but I have slowly gotten over it, maybe when I’m old I will show them off to my granddaughters!

Post # 11
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Brielle:  I guess the good part is that I am a part-time photographer and can do my own photoshopping… of course, can’t really do it to someone else’s images (legally).

 

 

@edgebee:  I have been at least a C cup since middle school, with somewhere between a 24 and a 27 inch waist. I have spent years trying to come to terms with the fact that the first thing many people notice about me is my chest.

 

If all goes as planned, there is a breast reduction in my future!

Post # 12
Member
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Okay, this is a little weird, since I don’t want to show my face… but here are my boobs in the wedding dress:

 

 

Okay… so those are some of the “not-completely-cringe-worthy” snapshots. I will NOT be posting the really bad ones!

Post # 13
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284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Trust me, I’ve seen a lot worse than that – maybe your cringe inducing ones are much worse? But I think that’s just normal well-endowed cleavage. 🙂

 

PS, It’s hard to say you look beautiful from such a small amount of pic, but I can tell you do! Love your dress.

 

Post # 14
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t think it’s the bad. I was expecting A LOT worse by the way you DNase it sound. Like borderline Jerry springer boobs. This looks okay. I think if anything truth be told they looked a little squished in but I don’t see them hanging all out. 🙂

Post # 15
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

And, here is how the dress looked when I first bought it, almost 2 cup sizes smaller!

Post # 16
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@tee22:  Thanks! I loved the dress… I guess I am just a little sad that it didn’t fit properly and wasn’t as perfect as I thought it would be.

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