(Closed) Feeling bad after shower…

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013


I don’t think she is jealous. I think she just wanted to surprise you. Typically, bridal showers are something that your bridesmaids or family do for you, something that you don’t have to plan or worry about. Sure, you like to be a part of the decision making, but not everyone feels that way.

I wouldn’t want to know about my bridal shower. I’d just like to show up and have fun without having to have my bridesmaids have to run everything by me.

No one is at fault, but everyone is entitled to their own opinions.

Post # 18
377 posts
Helper bee

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@mmmk: That is all well and good, but it was hardly appropriate for the OP’s Maid/Matron of Honor to express an opinion like that AT the shower.  Why is that the appropriate time and place to express her displeasure – her friend’s shower? It screams immaturity to me.

OP, don’t let your Maid/Matron of Honor dampen your excitement. You are in the home stretch now, and it sounds like you are not lacking supportive women in your life to share your wedding plans and excitement with from now until August (such as your Aunt), although it might not be standard, perhaps you need to lean on others more than your Maid/Matron of Honor leading up to the wedding.

Post # 20
4799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@mmmk: If she didn’t want the bride to be involved or have to worry, why on earth would she be contacting her about the games because she can’t print them, doesn’t have, pens. etc? Makes no sense…I don’t even know her B< and just wanted to shake her when I got to that part and be like, “Get it together, girl!” I think it’s ridiculous.

Post # 21
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Jealous.  She’s so over the top jealous.  And she straight up doesn’t make any sense — if she didn’t want you involved why would she call you up asking about pens and such?  She’s the Maid/Matron of Honor for pete’s sake….she didn’t have to throw the stinkin’ shower she can handle some dang pens.  >_>;;;;

I think she just got bit by the jealousy bug.  I’m sure she’s a good person but stuff like this comes up.  Women get jealous — shoot people in general get jealous.  But sweetie you didn’t do anything wrong.  It’s perfectly okay for you to get asked about food.  If your Aunt, who was throwing the shower, didn’t want your opinion she wouldn’t have asked.  And your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to hush x_x;  You do not need this *hugs*

Post # 22
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Wow!  She DOES sound jealous!  I would love it if someone asked me what kind of food I like, since some people may have allergies, or they want to make it special for me and have what I would like.  She sounded like she didn’t want to do it to begin with, so I don’t know why she would be so upset.  And, to make YOU upset, that is just awful.  I hope you can clear this, honey, since you don’t want a sour attitude on your most important day.

Post # 23
3080 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, I’m sorry this is happeneing. How ridiculous. My MOHs, who planned the shower, asked me from the beginning how involved I wanted to be – and I know they would have been cool with whatever I picked…but it helped them lessen THEIR stress to know that I chose A over B or C over D (location, food, etc.) sort of like your aunt did with food choices. My point being, I don’t think you’re out of line with your level of involvement.

And I HATE it when people say “well x said this about you” as if it proves some point. 

Clearly your Maid/Matron of Honor is jealous like the PPs indicate, but I do think that you chose her as Maid/Matron of Honor for a reason and it’s probably best if you try to patch things up. 

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@Wonderstruck:‘s suggested approach to this. 

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