(Closed) Feeling bad for inviting a friend to the wedding late (one month out) :-(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t beat yourself up over this… you did the right thing.  Having an A List and B List of Invitees is quite common in the Event Planning world (even for Royalty & Diplomats).  With enough lead-time it is workable.  Sounds like you planned it out accordingly.

The main thing is you never tell anyone that you have 2 Lists, or which one they are on.  And as long as all the Invites got the same Formal Invites then all is ok.

I understand that your Girlfriend would have liked to know further ahead, but that isn’t a necessity on your part.  If she can make it great, if not so be it.  It is what it is.


Post # 4
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t feel bad about it — you did this the right way.  Some people just invite everyone and cross their fingers that x amount will not show.  Then they get themselves into a bad situation.

Post # 5
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Don’t feel bad… ALot of people have a a&B list… I am working on my list currently, and feel like I could amlost make a c list…. lol , because somple people I just dont care about inviting, and feel like they wana be there cuz they are like well let me know…. and my Fiance and I know way, WAY too many people with large familys, and being in the FD and EMS

Post # 6
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve been that friend…its okay.  I mean, I wasn’t offended.  I knew I wasn’t that close to the bride and groom and we had only recently become closer.  Now she’s one of my bridesmaids.  I made it from B list to A list…isn’t that how a lot of friendships work?  Here’s to hoping she will be understanding 🙂

Post # 7
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I did the same thing with our invites.  We ended up having more RSVP’s that said no, so we needed to send out some extra invites.  The people who said yes were really happy that they were invited and ended up having a great time!  I had a couple of people who said with more notice, they could have made it.  I felt bad at the moment…   But, I don’t think a lot of people realize how difficult it is to handle a guest list for a wedding.  It is a complicated process, especially when you are waiting for the RSVP’s to be returned and they are late!!!

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