Post # 1
Fiance has a nephew who is in his mid-20s. He is not currently dating anyone and broke up with his last girlfriend about a year ago. When we sent out our invitations for our destination wedding, we didn’t give him (or anyone else who wasn’t in a relationship) a +1 figuring that no one would be bringing a random person to a small (40 people) destination wedding with mostly family. To be honest, we never really gave it much thought. It wasn’t really a budget thing or an attempt to keep the guest list down, but more that we didn’t really consider the possibility. Perhaps that was short-sighted on our part.
The nephew has now told his mom (FI’s sister) that he will be coming to the wedding, but won’t be sticking around long because he will be by himself. We feel awful! If we had known that he would want to bring someone (either just a friend or a new girl) they would be more than welcome. Furthermore, if he wants to bring a friend on the vacation, there is no reason that person can’t come and then not just attend the wedding. That being said, if we knew he had a friend with him, we would make sure this person knew they could attend the wedding too.
Fiance has texted the nephew to let him know that he can bring whoever he wants and apologized for our short-sightedness. FI’s whole family are really close and hang out together regularly, so I really don’t want to do anything to create issues.
Is this a huge faux pas? 🙁
Post # 3
No, it’s not a huge faux pas. It’s pretty standard that if a person’s not in a serious relationship, you just invite them. It’s very generous of you to extend the invitation to his friend.
Post # 4
no its not a faux pas. If a person isn’t in a serious relationship they don’t usually get to bring a plus one. you and Fiance have done the right thing in telling him a plus one is welcome to come to your wedding.
having said that though…..he is on a holiday with all his family so I don’t think he will be too lonely……his comment to his mum probably had more to do with him reflecting on his lack of relationship prospects at the moment. Wedding as fabulous when your in love but can be a bit of a downer when your not!!
Post # 5
Personally, I think everyone attending a destination wedding should be given a plus one. It’s one of those exceptional situations in my mind. I know that not all of the brides on the Bee agree with me, but I feel like if you’re asking guests to travel, you should give them the option of bringing a companion.
Post # 6
I guess the point was that we never really thought he would think he couldn’t bring anyone on the vacation, just that it was expected he was going to bring anyone to the wedding. Plus, he’s not traveling alone – He would be with his entire close-knit family. They’ve even rented a house together instead of using our room block cause they want to spend time together.
We are getting married at Disney World. It’s not like it’s some remote destination. If I had been invited solo to a destination wedding before Fiance, I probably would have grabbed some girlfriends and gone and made a vacation out of it. On the day of the wedding, I would have attended the wedding and let my friends do their own thing.
I dont know. Maybe we are reading way too much into the comment he made to Future Sister-In-Law.