- 4 days ago
- Wedding: October 2010
sweetdee89 : How do you fight those feelings of what if? How do you not focus on the good aspects, missing him and not get drawn into it?
OP- hard truth time- your BEST case scenario in this game is if your boyfriend follows through with his promises and gives you slightly more attention then he was giving before, stops following his ex on social media, and doesn’t make you give away your cat. Or put another way, the best thing about your relationship you can say is “it isn’t too bad”.
If we were to assign letter grades to your boyfriend, he’d be at a C minus or a D. Your “negotiation” might bring him to a B minus or a C plus. If he maintains it. Is that really what you want? A guy that, at BEST, will be an okay boyfriend?
Again, he looks good to you because I get the impression you don’t want to be alone. You’re not going to turn this C into an A. (Spoiler alert- you know why he can’t be an A? Because A guys are A guys because they WANT to be A guys. This guy wants to maintain a status quo with you. He doesn’t give a shit about actually being an A guy).
You will have to give yourself a chance to be single to find that A.
You are contemplating settling for a C who has to be begged to up himself to a B. No. No. No.