(Closed) Feeling Conflicted

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just give yourself some time to be sad about your grandmother.  Your boyfriend might not propose for a little while so even though he gave his intentions to your father, he might not be ready to propose yet.  So just try to put that off in your mind for now and focus on your sadness for a bit.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

ohh you poor thing! Big hugs to you. I know how you feel – my grandfather passed earlier this year and it was an extremely tough time emotionally. Just let yourself be sad when you feel like it and also – let yourself be happy if something makes you smile.

I know my boy really struggled when I was so sad and he hated seeing it and he certainly made a big effort to let me – and my family – know that he was there to look after me.

Even though it is bad timing, the fact that he has asked for permission from your dad shows that he is thinking about the next step and wants to protect you – and he wants your family to know that as well.

Big hugs to get you through the next few weeks

Post # 5
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2309 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m so sorry to hear that. Just wanted to give you hugs. I agree be sad when you want to and happy and excited when you feel to. Allow yourself to go through the mourning period without feeling guilty for looking forward to the next stage in live.

I’m sure you’re grandmother would have been very proud and happy for you.

Take care.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry — that’s awful, and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I really like what CupcakeLove says — try to take as much comfort as you can in knowing that he wants to take care of you and protect you. That seems like the place where those feelings intersect.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Big Hugs to you! Feel your feelings as they come naturally, and be gentle with yourself.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As one door closes, another opens. When the proposal comes, you will be excited then. That doesn’t mean you won’t miss your Grandmother or respect her.

Would your Grandmother be excited for you? I am sure she would want you to have the best experience with your engagement. Try to think of that…and also, try not to be so hard on yourself. You feel the way you feel, and you do not need to force anything else onto yourself. If you don’t feel excited right now, you are entitled to that.

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