(Closed) Feeling Defeated….

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I hear you, that’s annoying. My ex husband used to think he could sell our house, it obviously didn’t sell even though it was gorgeous. Many people think they can put a sign in the front yard and some pics online and it will sell, they *think* that is all a realtor does, so FALSE.

I have a friend who is a great realtor and she works her ass off. She is always posting new listings on facebook, giving homeowners advice on what they need to fix up on the house to make it sell, staging rooms and she is ALWAYS networking with other agents to make them know she has X Y and Z houses on the market. Plus she has knowledge that many home buyers/owners just don’t have!

I understand your Fiance wanting to save money but is it really worth it? No. What if you find the house of your dreams at a great price but can’t put an offer because yours isn’t sold or even looked at. That would suck. I would tell your Fiance since it has been “for sale” for almost 3 months with no interest you want your realtor to come look at the house, make sure it’s priced at fair market value, give you tips and then have her list it.

You need a bigger house with more space and want to do that before you get married, I think it’s a reasonable request that you get your current house sold ASAP. Maybe tell your Fiance how unhappy you are in your current house and that you want to move ASAP because of the reasons you listed above. If he loves you and wants you to be happy he will listen to you and hopefully take your advice.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sure he’s not happy about being crowded in with you and your stuff either!  Use his words to help your case.  Phrase it like ‘I know you’re unhappy that you keep tripping over my stuff, and it’s hard to always be in each other’s space.  Why don’t we talk to Jane and see what other options are out there?’

In general, selling a house by yourself is a HORRIBLE idea.  You don’t know the market, you don’t know what nearby houses are selling for, what historical prices have been, common incentives, etc.  You don’t hear from buyers in your area on a daily basis giving you details on what they want in a house.  That’s why being a realtor is a full time job.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree that selling a house yourself is a nightmare and not a good way to go.

Perhaps it makes sense to rent the house out and rent somewhere else? Now is really not a good time to sell. Depending on when he bought the house, you guys will likely take a hit on it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@countrylove914:  See, that’s the thing. With the decline in real estate prices and closing costs, it is quite possible you will not walk away from the closing with money. You may actually have to fork over money at the closing.

If you have the house appraised, you will be able to get a more accurate picture of what that will look like. 

I am not sure why buying a new house is so important? If you rent a new house, isn’t that going to do the job as well?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ask the agent if you can reduce the commision. Since she wil be getting 3% when you buy a new house, maybe she will reduce her comission by 1% for selling you current house. Might make Fiance more comfortable using an agent.

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