(Closed) Feeling depressed the week before my wedding :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry you are going through this. I can understand the working situation, I work in a small office where a lot of the time I am alone, so I get that wanting more social contact thing and being disappointed when people don’t follow through. 

I had a very small bachelorette party as well. All my BMs live out of the country except for one. She came up to plan something and tried to invite some of the other girls attending my wedding, but only one other girl made it (after I attended their parties. In fact one of the girls who didn’t come at the last minute wihtout giving a reason, I was the one who hosted her shower a few months earlier). I had a blast even though it was just two of them, we had a really great time and she really went out of her way to plan a special day. Focus on the positive that your Maid/Matron of Honor is awesome, it will help. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I understand where you are coming from… When I got engaged one of my “friends” who had hurt me in the past wanted to make up for it and decided to get the girls together to take me out for a drink. Well guess where she took me, a Bar where they play asian porn on the t.v and have vintage arcade games. I’m a girl btw. I came to the conclution that you really realize who your real friends are when you get engaged. Some people just can not handle seeing others happy. They might just be jealous and don’t want to give you much attention. It’s a clear sign of jealousy.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry hunny I know exactly how you feel. I do everything for everyone and have been alone in planning. Heck my girls didn’t even bother trying to plan a shower or bachelorette party. Ive had one of those weeks where I haven’t called or texted anyone to see if anyone contacted me and nothing. But you know what??? In the end your wedding is about you and your Fiance and you will have a blast!!! DOn;t forget that and enjoy your day!!! …. o and *HUG*

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know how you feel.  3 of my closest friends have moved within the year and won’t be able to make it. I know they’d be coming if they could, and I know it’s not personal – but it still hurts.  I let myself have a good cry on Monday night and then convinced myself to let it go. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know it might sound weird. I know you want to get to married but you might be grieving the loss of your old life. Your life is changing and the thought of losing it could make you depressed. I felt the same way because I have been on my own since I was 16 years old. I have been a single parent for 27 years and my life is going to change. I thought about my Fiance and if I could live life without him? I cant imagine my life without him.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m so sorry! I had a so-so friend who’s friends (despite having been in bridal parties before/married) weren’t there for her. I know etiquette dictates you just have to show up in the darn dress on the day as a Bridal Party member, but I think as a friend you would want to do the extra. My friend ended up having to plan all her own events and some of the bridal party didn’t show even with the notice. I’m sorry you’re feeling bummed- it sucks when friends don’t step up. Just know, there is a dude super pumped to spend the absolute rest of his life with you. Think about planning a post wedding girl’s night in the future when your hubby is away if you start craving that final gals night

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Setsuna22:  I have the same problem- wedding planning sucks when the people you always step up for suddenly don’t have the time or desire to help you. I hope your day was special anyway, despite the bummer circumstances! 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I know how you feel… we’ve been seriously let down by so called friends, making lame excuses as to why they can’t come to either the wedding or the stag/hen nights. I even had one of my closest friends say she wanted to stay in with her husband the night of my hen as she wanted to spend time with him, even though she sees him all the time and I’m only going to have ONE hen night, now it turns out he’s away with work, so she’s come up with another excuse. We’ve chased around supporting so many of these friends in times of need/crisis and then they can’t be bothered to come down to the pub for you…. (and that’s all my hen night is.. am not asking for any cost investment or anything!)

On a good note, people we didn’t expect to be there for us have pulled through… I think wedding planning proves who your real friends are!!

Sending you hugs!! your true friends will move hell and high water to be there for you. If they don’t, then they’re not worth getting upset over!

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