Post # 1
Does anyone else feel detatched from their Fiance lately? We have been engaged for 6 months and get married at the end of March. We have dated for 3 almost 4 years. With one breakup that lasted about 6 months.
I could not ask for a better person to be with. He is everything you would want to find in someone. Over the past 2 months or so I have just become very detached from him. I am feeling so bad because every time I go see him, i feel weird. I don’t want him to touch me or anything. We are very honest with each other and I told him how I was feeling so he encouraged me to go to a counselor and he researched one and everything for me. Seriously, he is such a wonderful person. I wish they made more of him for every lady out there.
My feelings are all over the place. Doubt, scared, settlement, thinking I will find someone better looking (AND HE ISN’T UGLY!!), unattracted to everyone, just really down and needing some encouragment and advice. And I don’t want to be single, or find myself, or anything of that nature. I have done those things. Its just very strange.
I feel terrible because he is so wonderful. Anyone else?
Post # 3
It’s normal to feel that way sometimes during your engagement, it’s all about the fear of marriage. Marriage is permanent, it’s “for life”, and it can be scary to trust that you have made the right decision, to not doubt whether there’s someone else out there. I think it’s a great idea for you to see a counselor, that’ll help you get everything in order. Also, don’t marry him just because he’s a “great guy”, make sure you really love him enough to marry him and that he’s your best friend. And try to relax, meditate, whatever. You just seem really stressed out about this and anxious. Def go see a counselor, it’ll help.
Post # 4
I think every bride goes through that at some point, but rarely talk about it for fear that everyone will question their decision to get married. Brides are always expected to put on this front that they are over-the-moon excited and happy and that wedding planning is the best thing since sliced bread. We all know deep down that this is not true.
You do need to sort through your feelings and find out if this is just a small case of cold feet or a gut feeling that you two should not get married. Counseling will really help.
Good luck! 🙂