(Closed) Feeling disappointed…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 62
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Wannabee

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Post # 63
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception

What about a spa day with your Maid/Matron of Honor and then on your bachelorette weekend, maybe mani/pedis? 

I love a good spay day too, but knowing your bridesmaids were even struggling to pay for flights makes me think I’d be better off choosing something low key and budget friendly we all could enjoy! Some of the best bachelorette weekends I’ve been on involved a nice cabin/house rental, pajamas, games, movies, wine, cookie dough, and nail polish. But that’s just my experience…

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@RRRoss:  I will cut you some slack since you are new here, but I will give you some advice: do NOT come in here and chastise everyone on their opinions just because they differ from yours. I have read every single post here. As a whole, everyone is being rather nice and giving their honest opinion (as asked for by the OP).

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Sunnyb07:  Depending on where they’re flying in from, they’ll already be spending like $700+ on your wedding in flights, a weeks worth of food and accommodation, dresses, shoes, hair and make up, etc. I’m sorry you’re disappointed that you can’t go to the expensive spa but $250 is a lot to demand your BMs spend for your bachelorette, especially when you consider how much they’re already spending. Instead of planning your own bachelorette party with unrealistic expectations, why not let your BMs find somethng within their budget? 

Post # 66
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

I predict this thread will be closed by the OP because the overwhelming response does not meet her expectations.

The thoughts expressed by the OP and in post #61 “It’s a wedding after all!” where the bride is, apparently, allowed to spend everyone’s money is considered standard by some. Fortunately, WB readers are giving another point of view. Way to go, Bees!

 

Post # 68
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Wannabee

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Post # 68
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Blushing bee

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Sunnyb07:  As it had been pointed out earlier, you are not entitled to any party. If my wedding party had to pay for flights, dresses, shoes etc I would not be expecting ANY party, anything they came up with on their own and surprised me with would be wonderful, even if it was just a bottle of wine and a move. I think you need to show some grace, your behavior is over the top, like a sitcom character or something to me. I not only would NOT go to your bach party if I was your girls, but I’d be questioning going to the wedding at all. 

 

I’m not trying to be mean here either, just hoping maybe if you read all these opinions you will change your behavior before you lose these friendships. 

 

Also, if you are in love with your man, be happy he will have a nice weekend, don’t be jealous of it.

 

Another thing I don’t get at all, and it was mentioned above, is how the Bride tells her girls the amount they will need to be in her wedding to make sure they save up. I would not have wanted to choose my wedding party based on how much money they have available. I chose the people first, THEN made budgets to suit. This wedding crap has gotten absolutely over the top and the amount of selfish spoiled brats I see is concerning. 

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