Post # 1
Originally I was thinking Fiance and I would elope, but then after discussion we came up with a fun idea for a small wedding so that was our plan.
After a fight with my sister today I am rethinking having a wedding at all and just going back to the elopement idea. My dad has already said it’s unlikely that he’ll be able to make it, I really don’t want my sisters to be there, and I don’t have a whole lot of friends (I could count my friends using less than both hands I’m sure) so I’m kind of thinking now what’s the point?
I’m really leaning toward just eloping now.
Post # 2
a_day_at_the_fair: If you feel elopement is best, do it! But don’t do it just because your family has upset you. Why did you and your fiancé choose to go the small wedding route? And have you talked with him about this?
Honestly if your family is upsetting you and you feel the way to really celebrate and enjoy your wedded bliss is elopement, go for it. I’d just hate an emotion ruled decision to deprive you of a wedding if you both want it.
Hugs, bee. And I hope you make the right choice for yourselves as a couple!
Post # 3
And what about your FI? It seems like most brides on this site tend to forget that a wedding involves 2 people. Does your Fiance have friends and family he wants to share this day with?
Post # 4
ren89: We originally decided to go the small wedding route because cost wise it would be about the same as the destination elopement packages I was looking at because that’s what I originally envisioned. I mean, there are some people who would want to celebrate with us so it seemed like a logical thing to do.
But the fight with my sister today was one of the same things that it always is. And I just kind of thinking about it like, why am doing anything to include them when we aren’t even friends. I am so jealous of those people who have good friend relationships with their sisters because I don’t have that and I’ve never had that, and I keep trying and shit like today happens and we’re back where we were.
My Fiance is on board with whatever basically. I think he came up with the small wedding idea because he thinks that’s what I want. He doesn’t have much family in the area, so thinking about it the only people that really matter to be there are my mom and his brother, and honestly I’d rather just pay for them to go somewhere with us than to try and continue this whole thing.
Post # 5
a_day_at_the_fair: if a wedding isn’t important to you u RJ don’t have a wedding. Even a small wedding can accrue quite a bit of cost. I think asking the closest people to you to join you is a great way to go. And then if you want, you can throw a celebration party with your friends. I understand strained sibling relationships. It sucks. I don’t think it’s worth it to be miserable if you and your Fiance agree that elopement will be a good option.
Post # 6
Ckasnoff: My FIs mom passed when he was young and his father doesn’t live in the country. The only family around that he is close with is his brother, and he has friends but like me not boatloads, most of them are single guys, so I doubt they’d be psyched to go to a wedding when all of my friends are married women.
I haven’t discussed it with him yet but I’m feeling like eloping with my mom and his brother as witnesses, and then just having a dinner or something with friends to celebrate with them might be a better idea.
Post # 7
a_day_at_the_fair: That is a great idea. You are still including those important, while avoiding the drama.
Post # 8
I would suggest to carry on with eloping. We talked about it too, the only reason why we’re not is because I really wanted my family to be there. (Even though they’ve been such a hassle we’ve almost reconsidered it)
If your dad can’t come and you don’t want the rest of your family there, then why else would you have a small wedding? If you think you’ll be happiest off somewhere with your love, I say go for it.
I think your idea of eloping then having a celebratory dinner is a great idea! Good luck planning! 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
The destination elopement sounds a lot more fun and you than the drama-wedding you’ve ended up planning but obviously don’t want.
Follow your heart!!
Post # 10
Having eloped myself, I say it’s the best thing ever (I’ve had a traditional wedding as well, so I know what both are like). But elope only because you two want to elope, not because of situations with others. 🙂