(Closed) Feeling discouraged because I can’t find “The Dress” :( — am I overanalyzing?–

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Am I being too critical? If so which dress is the best? :)
    You're being too critical, the first dress is best! : (55 votes)
    47 %
    You're being too critical, The second dress is best! : (7 votes)
    6 %
    You're being too critical, The third dress is best! : (39 votes)
    34 %
    You need to keep looking : (15 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    They all look great on you, esp the 1st and 3rd.  But really, honestly, and wholeheartedly, I LOVE the 3rd on you.  It doesn’t look gaudy at all.  It looks fantastic.  YES, you are being too critical!!

    Post # 4
    3295 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i absolutely love the first dress on you!!!

    Post # 5
    41 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I really like the 3rd dress but if you are worried about the ruffles why not look for a strapless ballgown? That shape looks great on you.

    Post # 6
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I love the third you are always going to have some questions but I think you are young and its so different and fun!! I love it!

    Post # 7
    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I LOOOOOVE the 1st one on you.  Its really flattering on you and it looks like it costs way more than $600!!

    Plus, I think it fits perfectly with a garden-style wedding. I think you will be happy with the flowy material in the summer too!

    Just out of curiousity…what don’t you like about the 1st one?? What’s holding you back from buying it?

    Post # 8
    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’d say that you’re probably being too critical and perhaps your expectations are a little high–especially because the dresses that you are wearing in all three pictures all look wonderful (you have a fab figure by the way!), but they’re all so very different. 

    First of all, you can’t go crazy over every single detail, especially because a lot of them can be altered. For example, I’m not a seamstress, but perhaps it’d be possible to change the ruffles on the bodice in the third one so they’re not so prominent. The other thing to remember is that while yes, you should love your dress and delight in its details, you also have to realize that when people look at you they will see your silhouette and remember your silhouette–they will NOT remember that your dress had flowers here and there or whatever. So remember that when you find yourself being overly nitpicky–it’s the same thing as obsessing over one’s ankles or hips or whatever. 

    Don’t take other peoples’ opinions too seriously. So they thought it was too simple. But remember that you’ll also have your hair done, full makeup, fancy shoes, a veil etc. etc. What matters is how YOU feel in the dress–at the end of the day, the right dress is the one that the bride feels right IN. 

    Scrutinizing pictures is also not a great idea. For one, the lighting and setting tends to be horrible. YOU also are a lovely looking girl, but you’re not all done up as you would be on your big day. So don’t allow yourself to critique away a dress unfairly. Plus, the “hey, I like this” feeling is hard to remember after the glow of bridal shop is gone. Plenty of brides buy their dress, panic about it while it’s off being ordered, freak out when they have to go pick it up, and then fall in love all over again when they put theirs on. 

    The other thing is, a lot of brides expect to see Jesus when they try on their dress, and for a lot of us, that’s just not going to happen. For many brides, me included, it was just a brightening up, a feeling of “Oh hey, this one makes me look GOOD!” kind of perkiness. At the end of the day, it’s a dress. It’s not therapy, it’s not a grand romance, it’s not going to solve problems. So just make sure that your expectations aren’t for the dress to tapdance when it can’t. 

    Post # 9
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    I ABSOLUTELY adore the first one on you. I agree that it doesn’t have the bling factor but then, I don’t really want the bling factor. Honestly, my dress is almost like the first one. I love love love it but maybe I’m prejudiced ๐Ÿ™‚ Also, I never did have that AHA moment when I tried my dress. I think too much SYTDD is spoiling shopping for ladies.

    Post # 10
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think the 1st and 2nd both look great! But don’t settle for anything you’re not really happy with.

    What’s the designer name/style of the 2nd dress? It’s very close to what I have been looking for!

    Post # 11
    23602 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I love all 3 dresses on you, but the 3rd one is my favorite!  I know what you mean about height – I myself wanted a ballgown, but due to my height ended up falling in love with a much more fitted style.  I was given the advice that all the bees (myself included) love to give – choose the dress that makes you feel most beautiful and most like a bride!

    Post # 12
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think the first one is perfect!! I love it and it is so fitting for a garden type wedding.

    Post # 13
    14481 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I love the first one on you!  The second one actually looks more simple from the picture.  And I do think that the ruffles are a bit much on the third one, and kind of just hides your body.  But the first onelooks fabulous.

    Post # 14
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    The 3rd one looks amazing on you.  Absolutely love it.  I think it’s young and fun and perfect for an outdoor summer wedding.

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