Post # 1
Hi there bees,
Just wanted to quickly post something that’s been bugging me tonight and may have crossed my mind in the past couple of days.
My fiance is coming to visit in 3 days, after not seeing each other for a month and bit. He’s bought the engagement ring and is planning to propose a second time, just to keep with tradition. I have been excited about this for a long time, and now it’s so close. But instead of getting more and more excited, I’m having a sad spell. I miss him so much and have been pretty lonely, as well as having a lot of work on. Instead of feeling ecstatic thinking about the proposal, I don’t want to talk about it, and just feel down. I feel like I’ve thought about it so much, I have no more energy. Plus my flatmate and I watch crappy wedding tv shows (she got me into them), and the whole thing is just a bit boring now.
Have I become disillusioned, just sad with being apart for so long or both? I just wish he was here, I feel like that’s the only thing that would help. If we were separated any longer, I would lose optimism.
A few kind words from you lovely bees would help, I’ve been feeling pretty low. Thank you.
Post # 3
My Fi and I were LDR for a long, long time and I went through the same thing (pre-engagement). It gets better, I assure you. Have you talked to him lately?
Post # 4
Aw, I think everyone is having a bad case of the Mondays today! When I was in an LDR (which didn’t work out for many reasons, not just the fact it was an LDR) I would often get like this when we didn’t see each other for a long time. I know it’s hard, but just keep your chin up and hang in there til you see him.. it’s so soon!!! And some pretty exciting things will be happening from the sound of it, so just try to enjoy everything and your relationship now while you can. Things sound like they will be getting much much better in the future 🙂 Hugs to you!
Post # 5
@techie: So you felt a bit sad too? I have talked to him, he’s counting down the hours til we’re together again. I just can’t get my head around this though, I was crying and didn’t know why earlier. I have been reading into every tiny little thing he says, although he really is doing nothing wrong.
Post # 6
LDR’s are stressful in a whole different kind of way. I was in one for quite a while before I moved to be with my (now) Darling Husband. I remember feeling that way too. You are definitely not alone! My Darling Husband is in the military…so we’re still apart for long periods of time even though we live in the same state finally. It is kind of a melancholy “yay that he is coming home” but at the same time…well, so much goes on when they aren’t around that it is almost like getting to know your SO all over again when you reunite. It is definitely stressful. I always find myself being afraid to get TOO excited, because I don’t want to be let down if the moment we see each other again isn’t as romantic and wonderful as I had envisioned.
The happy news is…most of that worry and stress melts away for me when I DO see my Darling Husband again. I’m hoping the same happens for you! Perhaps you’ve built a kind of wall to keep yourself from getting let down if things don’t go as you hope? My advice…turn off the wedding shows, try to get the proposal out of your head for a bit, and just take an evening to focus on YOU (a bubble bath, a good book, a funny movie, paint your nails, etc).
Post # 7
@Shychick: Quite a bit, but seeing him made it all worth it. Every visit is like a mini-vacation. And now he’s coming to propose to you again! Enjoy every minute you’re with him. 🙂
Post # 8
Thank you for your support girls, I’m feeling much better. 🙂 Just going to let my hair down and enjoy myself.
Talk soon bees! Hugs all round!! xx