(Closed) Feeling down…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
326 posts
Helper bee

I don’t mean any disrespect to pregnant women, but.. I don’t think a pregnant woman would make the best Maid/Matron of Honor.

MOH’s come with a long list of responsibilities, and if she’s pregnant… well, that’s her #1 priority now.

And it sounds like she’s already been unreliable and flaky with you anyway. I’d say it’d be a fine decision to let her go.

Post # 4
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Breathe. It will be ok. All of it. I’d say something to her like “I’m really excited for you and your new baby on the way. I know you will probably have your hands full with the little one, and I still want you involved in the wedding, but I don’t want you to have the pressure of the bridesmaids duties. Would you like to do a reading instead?” (Or something to that effect… reading/poem/pass out programs/whatever) That way you are not blowing her off completely since she is still involved. You can invite her to the bachelorette party, but also invite any other friends that live nearby. It doesn’t have to be bridesmaids only. Most girls I know love a good bachelorette party whether they are in the wedding or not. Also if you throw in there the “bridesmaids duties” that puts her on official notice that there ARE duties (to some level) and if she still insists she wants to be a bridesmaid you can tell her your concerns. Sometimes honesty is the best policy.

**HUGS**

Post # 5
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think that, especially if she has given you the option to count her our of the wedding party that you should consider how difficult that may have been for her to come up with that solution. I am sure she really cares about you and wants to do everything to help prepare for your special day but its also a time where she is probably going to very emotional and hormonal. You could offer to give her a diferrent role in the wedding (reading/ guest book) let her know that she is important to you and that you want her to be there for your special day but recognize that if you are truly good friends that hopefully you all can continue to be there for one another for much longer than one day.

Post # 7
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry but I think it’s totally wrong to kick her out because she is pregnant or will have just had a baby before your wedding. If it’s the other issues, then fine make your choice and state those reasons. But pased solely on pregnancy alone – I don’t agree with it.

 

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