- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
I’ve been working for the same company for a little over 3 years. Initially, I loved it. I was working as a receptionist on track to becoming a paralegal, and I really felt challenged and happy. Now, something overshadows that previous feeling. I can’t stand my boss. I actually have never been able to stand this guy the whole time I have been here. However, at least before my “promotion” I wasn’t working directly for him as his legal secretary. And it’s not just that he’s a bad boss…he’s a horrible person. I can’t even mildly agree with anything he does in his personal life (which unfortunately I know because I have to send out all of his letters), and much of what he does in his professional life creates tons of unnecessary busy work for me. Yes, I am now disgruntled.
I wish I could say I wasn’t warned. Unfortunately, on the first day of my paralegal classes, my professor warned us that attorneys would kill our souls. Additionally, every forum I read about paralegals warns hopefuls that most attorneys are narcissists and consistent a-holes. Across the board, paralegals talk about how stressed they are because they constantly have to watch their backs, and worry about being blamed for things out of their control. Basically, you have to be nuts to assume that your situation could be different. In my case, I work well with every single attorney in our firm but this guy, and this guy is now my boss.
It seems a shame for me to totally give up on being a paralegal as I am now nationally certified and I have experience. I just can’t help but second guess myself every day that I have to bite my tongue (to ensure I’m not jobless) as my corrupt boss throws me under the bus day after day. I’m a stress case, and I can’t even begin to figure out an exit strategy. I’m not in a position to just quit either as Darling Husband has decided to go back to school to get a second Bachelor’s degree.
Also, I tried talking to the people in my firm to get me into a paralegal position as opposed to working as this guy’s secretary. This resulted in a sit down between my boss, a few of my coworkers and me where my boss totally patronised me in front of my coworkers, and told me that it would be AT LEAST one year (if not two) until I could come out of the role as his secretary since I’m so inexperienced. Then, when my coworkers defended me and let him know of all of the things I’m capable of, he acted surprised that I knew how to do all of these things (even though I do these things for him on a regular basis.) So, trying to get a different position within my firm is out, and I just feel defeated and angry at myself.
Are there any legal/paralegal bees who rose above the a-holes? If so, how did you get out and/or find a good position? I’m desperate and stressed.