- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
My FH and I got engaged in June of 2012. In December of 2012 we went through a short break-up. It lasted 3 weeks and we got back together New Years Eve. We decided to postpone the wedding and engagement to work on our relationship. We didn’t communicate with each other very well, and it really put a strain on our relationship. We went to counseling and we talk way more, and things are just way better. In July we talked about getting re-engaged and FH proposed (again, lol) in August. So now we’re planning our wedding in October.
We’ve been kind of getting crap about it. When I told my Dad we had gotten engaged, the first he said was “Is it for real this time?” I was a little hurt by this since he was very supportive of us getting back together and working on things. FH told his mom that we ordered our Save the Dates. She just said “Oh boooy”. Not in an excited way, mind you. And there’s other examples, I won’t get into all of them. It just feels like no one is excited or happy for us. I feel like they aren’t taking us seriously because we postponed the wedding. It’s just a little discouraging for both of us, to say the least.
Then, FH’s really good friend from Virginia moved up here this summer. He started a LDR with a girl who worked with FH and I when he came to visit in February. So she moved in with him when he moved here. They got engaged last month. When FH and I are invited over, it’s only when she isn’t home, and we have to be gone before she gets home. When it’s just FH, he can stay as long as he likes. I feel bad because this guy is like a brother to him, and he doesn’t get to see him as often because I don’t think she wants to see me. Then she’s been talking to FH about wedding stuff. She sounds insane. He’s the best man and she said he had to submit his speech to her before the wedding for her approval. She’s writing her MoH’s speech. She asked FH what our budget is. He told her $5k (it’s really more of $8k) and I guess she snorted and said you can’t do a wedding on that budget. She asked about our centerpieces (FH asked me if we were having centerpieces and what they were, lol). Then she told FH that their wedding invite is going to be a picture of her and her fiance, with the photo focusing on her engagement ring (like, what in the actual fuck? I asked FH if she meant save the dates and he said, no, invites). I’m glad she doesn’t want to see me, I don’t think I could not call her crazy. FH is having a hard time with it.
Ugh. Wedding stuff in general is wearing down on me. Please tell me it gets better.