- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Be warned: This might be long and really is more of a rant/word dump than anything.
I was just on facebook and one of FI’s first cousins on his mom’s side said to me “when’s your wedding and where again? I want to make sure I mark it in my calendar”. The thing is, this particular first cousin isn’t invited mostly because Fiance told me not to invite her or her sisters because HE isn’t close with them (even though his family is).
I didn’t even think of it and didn’t invite them even though we invited a few first cousins on his dad’s side that he is really close with. It’s kind of the same deal on my side of the family as we invited my entire extended family on my mom’s side and only my dad’s siblings (much to my dismay) since I’m just not close to my dad’s side of the family.
I keep saying our wedding is “intimate” but it’s not really, we’re expecting about 100-120 guests, but it will all be relatives and friends that both of us (or in some cases just one of us) are very close to and talk to on a regular basis.
Oh, and our venue has a guest limit of 140 and the cost per plate is really expensive so we’re trying to keep it under 120.
I digress, there’s nothing I can really do about the guest list now. The save the dates have gone out, the invites are going out next month, it is what it is. I guess I’m just having one of those “god I wish we’d just eloped” kind of days.
For the most part I’ve LOVED planning our wedding, everything is coming together beautifully and it’s going to be a wonderful day, but from time-to-time (like today) I’m just over it.
And for some reason after having that convo on facebook with FI’s cousin (she was really understanding, thank god) I just feel kind of sad about the whole thing and maybe wish I’d handled it differently instead of just being like “OK” when Fiance told me not to invite them, maybe considered his families feelings more or something? Not that they have, or ever would, said anything to me about it. But I probably should have invited these first cousins.
Anyways, that was kind of a ramble and maybe didn’t make sense. Just had to get it off my chest!
The guest list has BY FAR been my least favourite part of wedding planning.