(Closed) Feeling down in the dumps and confused!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1540 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

have you talked to him about the way you feel? I’m not big on politics, so I can’t really give a reasonable explanation or advice because I don’t know what it involved, but try and tell him what’s going on and see what he says. You should get these things ironed out before marriage

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

moving in together can be a HUGE adjustment

when I moved in with my dh last year, it was AWFUL and I wanted to leave a million times, we fought a lot, too. We ended up seeking a professionals help to help us get past some of our issues.

Good luck to you

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Is he into politics as a job? That would be one thing, and making sure he doesn’t bring work home with him, but if he’s just sitting at home talking politics all the time to get a reaction out of you that’s crazy.

That’s what my Father-In-Law does when he is with Darling Husband. He will constantly talk politics, and it is exhausting.

I would let your Fiance know that there is no politics at the dinner table, first and foremost, and that you prefer to have other conversations too. I think the stress of moving in together is kind of catching up with you, so I would let him know that and maybe he will cool down. You guys need to go out for a date night or do something fun that doesn’t involve talking about work or politics. Just be together.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I think there might be two separate issues: 1) the transition to living to together and 2) being second to politics. 

First, after 14 days, everything is still new to both of you. When my husband and I moved in together as boyfriend and girlfriend, it took him months to adjust. It wasn’t that living together was bad, but it certainly was different. You need to allow that time.

Second, what does he do that makes you feel second to politics? If you have an open conversation about you each need from the relationship, it would probably help create more balance. So, if you need one hour of quality time with him each day, he should be able to give it to you. And if he needs to focus on politics sometimes, he should be able to. You just have to figure out the right balance.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

How does he react when you tell him  how you feel? 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Starshine32:  You just moved in together on 3/1?  Give it some time!!!  Moving in together is Hell!!

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