(Closed) Feeling Emotional Tonight.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Torrid:  Well, I’m sorry you’re having the kidney stone issue. That certainly can’t be making things better for you. 

I think your post is very telling not of your “jealousy,” so much as the type of “friendship” you have with this girl. Is she always like this? Is she showing her true colors now? If she’s treating you horribly, I think you have some evaluating to do on whether you want to remain friends with her. There are probably some deeper core issues at the heart of the matter that go beyond your (what you call) jealousy. 

If she’s genuinely mistreating everyone around her, including her Fiance, that’s probably why you feel this way. Your subconscious is telling you she’s bad news all around, and to get away from it. 

Maybe it’s time to drift away from her?

Post # 6
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Torrid:  I have a sister like this. ๐Ÿ™‚ I am stuck with her.

Post # 7
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just wanting to send this:

Post # 8
1330 posts
Bumble bee

for the record WB, she isn’t talking about MY wedding!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ lol

I know that feeling you are having. Life is seriously kicking you in the balls and when you are down, it is currently kicking you some more.

Kidney stones.


“Friend” (I will type that loosely) issues

Not engaged yet.

have to attend another wedding.

Wedding sounds like a horror show.

Stress in general.



Maybe your SO will propose this weekend…who knows? I know every wedding I attended as a single or un-engaged chick was tough. I would get in little moods and honestly, it is best to give yourself a half hour to feel like crap, then write out al lthe awesome things you have in your life and know that you are so strong and wil lget through this-piece of cake.



Post # 9
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

*sings* Frie-na-mies! They stab you in the ba-ah-ack!! With friends like her…, right?

OMG she wants you to look ugly? why are you still doing this? Bow Out. Say, “You a bitch, and you can suck it”. and tell her where to shove her ugly dress and her ugly attitude! lol. I think people who treat others meanly deserve what they get.

Post # 10
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Feel better Torrid! You can get through it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with Sapphire-Dreamer. I would go to her house and dropp off the outfit and tell her that you don’t feel right about being a part of her wedding and leave.

I was a bridesmaid once and I spend 2,000$ on the whole thing! And I wasn’t even the maid of honor! The dress that I’ll never wear again cust me alone 400$. The batchlorette that only 2 other girls showed up to cust me quite a bit too. By the end of it all I wanted to cry, not only about the fact that she was gettign married before me, but the money I spent was ridiculous cuz she wanted to have evrything perfect and expensiver. However I knew that her and her Fiance were together for a long time and that the marriage will last forever and that was the only reason why i did it. If her story was something like your friends, I would have definitelly not be a part of it.

Post # 12
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Torrid:  *hugs* I think you nailed it… you’re just having a bad go of things because you’re feeling sick.

I hope you get better soon!

On the bright side, soon the wedding will be over and you can move on. That will be a big relief!

I understand the jealousy thing, sometimes I have my bad days myself. That’s perfectly normal.


Post # 13
121 posts
Blushing bee

@Torrid:  *hugs*

I can’t even imagine the pain of kidney stones. For what’s it worth,I don’t think your sadness stems from jealousy. I think you have a lot going on emotionally, between your health, and as sapphire-dreamer honestly stated, your frenemy. I’d be a heaping,crying mess if that was me.

At this point, whether you want to be a part of her day or not is still an option. On one hand you’ve endured (what seems like) the hell leading up to the wedding, this being the last obstacle. However, you also mentioned that you can’t stand next to her with a clear conscience. Totally understandable. If you want to bow out, I’d suggest telling a white lie (kidney stones are really bothering you, dr told you to stay off your feet/consume lots of liquid and sticking near a bathroom…something like that. Obviously you know a good reason related to that.) she may after that be annoyed and stop talking to you -problem solved! If not, you stop talking and don’t ask her to be part of your day, she’ll get the hint. That’s my suggestion bc I would be likely to do that. If I didn’t want to be friends than I wouldn’t go through the trouble of telling her off. I’m passive-aggressive sometimes. 

Goodluck with whatever you choose. And remember to do what is best for you! 


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