- 4 years ago
We are planning our wedding for May 5, 2015. I am feeling very overwhelmed and that I hugely underestimated how much money we would need. Our budget is $5000. We are planning on renting a vacation house for everyone to stay at in lieu of a hotel, have the ceremony and reception at the house so no one has to travel anywhere. I like this idea a lot and we are going to see the house in a couple weeks to ensure it is what we want. This is taking a huge chunk of our budget, like almost half of it. I think it is worth it though. We are having a very small wedding because of this. Our parents, close siblings and friends some of whom are pulling double duty like officiant and bridal party. So its a total of 20 people including us. Very small and we are pretty happy with that.
I also have chosen my dress but didn’t think about all the extra stuff. Bra, spanx, tights, veil, petticoat, shoes. Not to mention make up and hair stuff. We can not afford a make up artist or hair stylist so i’ll be doing my own. I just don’t even know how we are going to pay for that stuff. I am also actively losing weight and don’t want to buy something too early at a good price and then have to buy something else later. Not to mention my fiancees tux. I have some money in the budget for that but i thought he’d want a suit, which could be cheaper and an investment. But he wants a tux so we will rent a tux for him.
The money I have for food is small as well but I think breakfast for dinner is a good option there. I also have a very small photographer budget and i keep reading that is the most important decision as those photos are what you have to rememeber the day by, I am worried they won’t be very good for the price. I have contacted a couple of photogs that are in my range, i just feel unable to make a decision.
My fiancee and I live in a city 3.5 hours away from any family or friends that could help. I feel so detached and jealous when i read that other brides had their Maid/Matron of Honor or mom help them make stuff for the wedding. Its just me, my fiancee doesnt care. Not in the bad way, just whatever I do he is ok with. Which is nice to a point. He also doesn’t want me stressed and when I talk to him, he just says it’ll all work out, don’t worry about it. If it were up to him, he would plan the whole thing the week before. I can’t even call my Maid/Matron of Honor since she is the single mom of twins she is always busy so its just hard to find support. My parents are footing or whole budget so I can’t ask them for more money at this point and they live 1200 miles away. My mom is not very creative and is suddenly having concerns over us renting this house. Hopefully, once we see it it will put her mind at ease. It’s just frustrating that we talked about it for weeks, she didn’t express any concerns, we paid the deposit to secure the dates, and now she thinks it might be a scam. I’ve done enough research we are confident in it, but she is not convinced.
Also, to top it all off, my fiancee is against budgeting. Not in theory, just in actually doing it. We live paycheck to paycheck and I guess I’ll have to make our food budget smaller in order to buy some of the things we need for the wedding. We can spend a lot in food sometimes so that’s not really that bad I guess. I just feel like everything is on me to decide, buy, do, figure out. Its a lot of work. I know if i ask him to help he will say yes, but not do anything until the very last minute.
Not to mention our honeymoon. I brought it up once, we talked about an alaskan cruise, i figured out what we would need to save to do it. He said he would look into other stuff and I haven’t heard anything.
This being thanksgiving and all, I want to end on an up note since I’ve been venting and been a downer this whole post. I do love my fiancee and am trying to accept him for who he is and not change him, becuase that wouldn’t work anyway. I just needed to share my feelings with brides who might understand where i am at and offer advice. I have gotten such great advice so far!!! Thanks for reading this whole thing if you made it this far!!!