(Closed) Feeling extremely selfish and disappointed today…

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

There must be the perfect doggy needing a home out there for you – just not ready to be picked up today!  

All the best in your search, I’m sure you will make wonderful pet parents when the time is right!

Post # 4
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I can undestand how disappointing that would be, I don’t know how I would have managed when we went to pick up our boy if we came home empty handed 🙁 Its great that you are choosing the adoption route though!! In Canada adopting a shelter dog can be quite the process, in my city anyhow. They interview the whole family, have supervised play at the shelter, and then you MIGHT get chosen to “foster” the dog for 2-4 weeks before being able to outright adopt the dog. 

When I hear stories of the traveling pet adoption vans and such I am so surprised the process seems soo easy! 

Post # 5
2680 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

If it’s any consolation, Darling Husband & I looked for weeks, maybe even months before we found the perfect fit.  He kinda just fell in our laps though eventually.  People knew we had be looking & as it turns out, DH’s coworker’s neighbor had too many animals [per the county] & had to get rid of some ASAP.  Our puppy was nearly 12 weeks old when we got him & practically everything we wanted (as far as size, gender, & general temperament)!  Definitely fate & he has fit right into our lives!  We absolutely love him & would have waited just as long, if longer for him ;]

Hang in there!  You’re a great person [& your DH] for trying to adopt & I hope you guys find a fantastic puppy that will change your lives in just as fantastic of a way as you will change a potential dog’s :]

Post # 6
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@sofialovesmikey:  I totally understand- but it’s a happy sort of problem to have. And when you do find your dog and fall head over heels, you’ll be so happy that everything happened just so to bring you guys together.

Post # 7
1122 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sofialovesmikey:  1st – thanks for adopting! 2nd – congratulations on making this huge decision!  

I have volunteered with rescue groups before and I suggest emailing a reputable rescue in your area and explain what you are looking for in a dog.  They will set you up with someone they think will fit your lifestyle – you might even get to go visit the dog in his foster home!  That is the best way to find a dog.  Adoption events &shelters are very stressful for dogs, so talking to foster families will ensure a good fit.  

Good luck!

Post # 8
1138 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You will find the right dog for you–sorry you were disappointed though! 

Post # 9
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sofialovesmikey:  awww i understand this feeling completely! when i decided to adopt a cat, i had to go to 5 different shelters before i found my girl. it was really discouraging and frustrating. you will absolutely find the dog that you are meant to have- it might just take a little longer than you wanted.

Post # 10
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Some things can’t and shouldn’t be rushed. Deciding to find a dog is wonderful but for everyone’s sake wait until you find the perfect match. There are so many animals in need that it’s surely just a matter of time. Spur of the moment decisions on pets are not the best way to go. I speak from experience.

Post # 11
66 posts
Worker bee

Just an FYI, there are facebook sites like urgent part 2,  that are run by volunteers at animal care and control shelters across the country. NY acc puts a list of dogs out every night of who will be put down the following day. 99% of the time, it’s a space issue or the dog caught a cold, and they are perfectly adoptable. Anyways, they work with rescues and transport companies to get an animal out of there and to their forever home. We rescued our pit mix from urgent, and she has been the most wonderful thing. She was supposed to be put down that day, instead They spayed her and got her up to date on shots, microchipped her, then transported her to a nearby town where I picked her up. I’m not sure where you live, but if you search death row dogs on facebook or google, tons of sites will come up. The same goes for cats, but there are so many more. It might be worth your time, I know the dog will be happy you did!

Post # 12
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I totally get the urge to rush especially when you catch that puppy bug BUT…I truly believe that the dogs who come into your life as if happenstance, the dogs who seem to have chosen you, are the ones you tend to have these amazing, beautiful, unique relationships with. They also can be the most challenging, haha! It’s sort of like “you’ll find your soulmate when you stop looking” – except it’s your doggy soulmate. You’ll know when you’ve found him! Definitely keep an eye out, but try to take the pressure off and take a few steps back when you feel like you’re making a hasty decision. 

Maybe you can foster in the mean time? 

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