(Closed) Feeling fat and flabby

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

At 5’6 and 132 lbs., you are at the low end of healthy for your height.


Please don’t feel like you need to be any skinnier.  If your problem is just that you’re not feeling as toned as you used to be, then that’s fine.  All you have to do is start lifting small weights and do a few other toning exercises.  You do NOT need to lose weight, though.

Post # 4
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can’t see the picture but I can tell you that being 132 at that height is NOT flabby.  Your BMI is completely normal and is far from being fat.  I think that you would have to weigh at least 20 pounds more to be considered overweight.  

I would not be so hard on myslef.  I am just as tall as you are and I weigh more than that and feel great.  You will look great to yourself if you have more confidence.  Try staying off the scale for a while and concentrate on how you feel rather that that number.  You will make a beautiful bride 🙂

Post # 5
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am 5’4 and 132 pounds. I feel disgusting!! I was 122… I have always been skinny fat, I don’t exercise enough

Post # 6
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am 5’7 and 138. I wear a size 4/6, and I hate the scale…I also have 34 DDD boobs so I look a lot heavier than I am. I get the whole ” are you changing your diet?” and ” oh, your having a whole sandwich??” A LOT…especially from my mother in law…. My only advise to you is to keep excerising and lift 2 times a week and eat healthy. I try and eat a lot more veggies than I usually do and DON”T LISTEN TO ANYONE who asks you if you are dieting. PEople who say that to me, I have started saying : ” No, do I need to??” and their reaction is priceless!

Post # 7
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow, I could have written this. I am also 5’6″ and 132lbs to be exact. I used to be super tiny in high school (around 110lbs) and have slowly gained weight as I’ve gotten older. I used to maintain my weight around 120lbs, but I gained around 10lbs in the last two years, probably because I’m getting closer to 30 and my metabolism is slowing down. 

Although I am not fat, I am also not comfortable with my body right now. In the last two years, I haven’t even been able to lose five pounds, much less 10. I go to the gym usually 2-4 times a week and I think that just helps me maintain my weight because I haven’t changed what I eat. Now I am focusing more on my diet. My finace and I have recently cut ourselves down to eating out just twice a week. I try to eat soups for lunch with some carrot sticks so I can be a little easier on calories at dinner. 

I work at a very very stressful job and it’s easy to stress eat or work late and then have to stop to get Mexican on the way home. It’s so easy to use these foods as a crutch.

I can’t believe people have the nerve to ask you if you plan to crash diet before your wedding, as if you need it. Women can be so incredibly cruel to one another, needlessly. 

I wish I had advice to give you, but please know you are NOT fat. You don’t need to crash diet. Just make sure you aren’t stress eating from wedding planning or job-related stress. 

Post # 8
12 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

First, don’t get down on yourself for how much you weigh. You’ve got a completely healthy weight for your height! So many people these days focus how they feel about themselves on their weight when we shoud be focusing on how healthy we are and how we feel in our own skin. Don’t pay attention to the scale, as hard as that may be.

In two months you can change your body a lot though, if this is what you wish to do. Make sure you’re doing a good mix of both cardio and strength training workouts. Since you mentioned you feel “skinny fat” I would highly recommend getting 3-4 strength training workouts in a week, this will help with that a lot! Building muscle will help you tone up and the more muscle you have the more calories you burn, it’s a win-win situation! Eat lots of fruits, veggies, whole grains and lean meats. Check out websites like toneitup.com or bodyrock.tv they have great workouts that are usually about 20-30 minutes. You don’t have to spend hours in the gym to see results. But regardless, try to embrace who you are and know you’re beautiful!!

Post # 9
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i am 5″5.5 and 130 pounds was my wedding goal weight, i was thrilled when i got there and felt amazing at that weight.  i can’t see the picture either, but i am sure you look amazing.  

Post # 10
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel skinny fat, too. I’m 5’8″ and 148 pounds, which is a healthy weight for my height, but also about 10 pounds over from where I would like to be. It has nothing to do with being healthy. It has everything to do with feeling happy in my skin. Between 137 and 140 is a my happy weight, where I feel good about myself. Anything more than that and I feel physically uncomfortable with the extra weight, not to mention unattractive. Being a healthy weight according to a BMI chart and actually feeling like you are at a healthy weight are two different things.

Post # 11
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I feel the same way sometimes, sometimes I’m ok with my self but sometimes I’m just like… jeez, how did I let myself go already? I’m 5’6″ too, and i’m stuck on thinking my ideal/actual weight is the 115lbs I weighed at 16 years old, so delusional Undecided (21 now btw) I’ve since gone up to as high as 150, and now I’m resting at about 140, and it’s just gross when i can feel the fat jiggling around my thighs and stomach when i walk, I think that’s what gets me the most. I blame it on my slow thyroid and my chronic joint pain that makes exercising a really unnapealing prospect. Buuut, my Fiance likes the way I look, and says he doesn’t want me to lose weight. And I think I trust his opinion more than mine :p And when I see pictures of myself, it weirdly seems like I actually look skinnier, I think my perception is just skewed because I’m so close to my own body that it looks larger than everything else, you know? So… I guess the point is, you probably look better than you think you look? 🙂

Post # 12
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m going to be completely tactless and say… NONE OF YOU ARE FAT!

Each and every single one of you is of a healthy weight. As long as you’re keeping fit, it really doesn’t matter if you’re heavier than you were at 16.

Post # 13
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I feel fat and flubby too! But that is because I am fat and flubby and I know it (lol), good thing I am trying to lose weight to be healhier. Anyways, if you feel a bit flabbier or fat, maybe try sticking to only lighter foods for a while to get rid of that feeling, for me it helps at least! It’s all about the feeling. I def don’ think you should try to lose weight more just because of that. You seem to be in a healthy place with your weight, so don’t overthink it! 


Post # 14
9667 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I am 5’3″ and 167lbs. Definitely a tough journey, I am definitely not skinny fat, but the weight is slowly dropping off 🙂 There is plenty of support here on the bee!

Post # 15
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

According to that chart posted earlier I was one block away from obese and now I am one block away from healthy so yey for me.  OP I think you probably look amazing even though I can’t see the pic


@Jacqui90:  I agree I have lost 5 pounds with the help of the bees

Post # 16
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

There’s no point my telling you that you’re a normal weight if you feel a bit chunky, and there’s certainly no point in my showing you a BMI chart, because as we all know then those are complete trash. I’ve been pretty much exactly the same dress size and measurements at 105lb and at 129lb… the difference being that I looked terminally ill at 105lb and like a professional athlete/model at 129lb, because that extra weight was all muscle, baby!

You shouldn’t feel fat, but I know all too well that putting on that extra fat/weight when you get with someone is a shocker to the system, so I can understand why you feel that way. The solution, of course, is a diet high in protein, fruit and vegetables, combined with lots of exercise. Don’t be afraid to lift weights, either, and tone up that way. You know this already though, right?

That said, anyone who tells you to crash diet is being mean, and you should tell them to “**** off”… only perhaps don’t put it quite like that, LOL! They have some nerve, talking to you like that!

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