- 6 months ago
- Wedding: June 2020
Ive never had to ask advice on a board before… yet here I stand…
ive recently been informed (not asked) that I am the Maid Of Honour at an acquaintances wedding.
i have known the bride to be for 20 years. We went to high school together (weren’t close then), she has been a client at my business for ten years, and our children are friends.. however we don’t socialize or hang out. We contact eachother only when there’s a purpose to.
The bride to be TOLD me I am her maid of honour..
i have never met anyone else in the wedding party.. I have met her fiancé maybe five times briefly.. and I don’t particularly care for him.
she keeps buying things and showing up with receipts for things she has bought for the wedding and demands I pay her immediately for these items…
Out of the six people in the wedding party, two live out of country, one lives several hours away, and the other two live close but I have never met any of them.
the bride to be is insisting I throw a jack and Jill, bridal shower, and bachelorette for her..
she doesn’t have any friends and I know from previous events (a baby shower years ago) that nobody will show up to the jack and Jill or bridal shower. It will end up costing WAY more money then they will make from it.
My concern is that I’m being pushed into a lot of work and money on my end, and I am resenting it as we aren’t close friends.
I can foresee nobody showing up and then her blaming me..and drama to follow.. she has NO friends at all, no family in the area, and my friends that do know her, don’t particularly like her… I don’t know a single person that we would invite.
I don’t feel that I’m in a situation where I could successfully pull these events off… plus I know I wouldn’t have the help of the rest of the wedding party.. I would have to do it all on my own…
I know she will be very upset if I refuse to throw the jack and Jill for her as she has no money to spend on her wedding and needs the entire thing funded.
this couple struggles to live week to week