(Closed) Feeling friendless rant

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I moved out of state away from my family and freinds permanantly when I got married a few weeks ago. I know what your saying!

We have a great Church with a ” college and career” focused group, and there are many newlyweds but I just can’t get into it for whatever reason.

I am somewhat shy and I love have just a few close friends, but I won’t just do anything to have a friend. For now I call and chat with my best friends and just focus on being a great wife and of course have fun with my most best friend, the husband.

I have found my husbands buddies to be really great guys to hang out with and some of them have girlfriends that I can hangout with. Does your hubby have friends with spouses/FI’s/gfs?

If we lived near each other ( maybe we do! lol as citzens of the word) I would totally hang out witn you!

 

Post # 5
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11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yes, I can relate!

I’ve been married for 2.5 years.  I had to relocate to another state to be with Darling Husband (whom I met online), and I not only had to leave behind all of my friends but also my church family, my house, my lucrative career, and all that was familiar to me.  I have had an extremely hard time adjusting to going from successful, single, career woman living in a major metropolitan area with a lot of wonderful friends and things to do, places to go, etc. to pastor’s wife, stepmother, dog owner, etc. living in a quiet, rural area where I have yet to find a career opportunity consistent with my education and experience. I am very blessed to have met some very wonderful people at the church where my husband pastors, but it takes time for relationships to develop to the level of those that I have had with my friends from my former area.  And, without having a new job here, it’s difficult to meet new people outside of our church.

Post # 7
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11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Mrs. Kitty:  Thank you. I am thankful for WB, because I have been able to communicate with bees like you who are able to relate a bit to some of what I’ve been experiencing. I just wish I had found WB sooner and had joined while I was still engaged. I would have learned so much from all of you!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Have you tried using social media groups like Meetup? Meetup allows you to find and meetup with people who have shared interests such as hobbies, age, or occupations. Its completely free.

Post # 11
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11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Mrs. Kitty:  I believe that God wants to use these “wilderness” experiences that we’ve been going through at this stage of our lives to draw us closer to Himself and also to create the circumstances that will allow us to bond with our DHs in deeper ways as well. I was single for a very long time and was very independent, so I’ve to learn how to be a part of a couple and to be a Godly wife. I can totally see that those would not be the priorities of most of the women your age on a college campus either. 

As a pastor’s wife and a fellow believer, I’m sorry to hear about the conflicts within your church as well. I’m sure that, too, makes it more challenging to build relationships.  However, if we keep our eyes fixed on the Lord, He will use all of these circumstances for our good and His glory. I am glad that you have a strong relationship with Him and that you also have a Godly husband. Smile

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