Post # 1
I am feeling a little frustrated with the hubs, and since the wedding is drawing ever-nearer I am feeling more pressure from everyone to get things done. I was talking to the Mr last night on the way home and he didn’t understand why we should register or why I was asking him about the wedding and wanting input. Really?! Please tell me I am not the only one experiencing this. I am getting so frustrated and I am starting to feel like I don’t care anymore. I am finding it harder and harder to be sympathetic when he wants my input on things because he isn’t giving me input on the wedding and those related details. I do love him, I’m just starting to feel overwhelmed.
Post # 3
Can you delegate some tasks to your bridesmaids and or/family? Like invitations, centerpieces, finding bridesmaid jewelry, etc? I was going crazy with planning too, and then I passed along invitations to a friend and jewelry to a bridesmaid. Both are done, I didn’t have to stress, and I could focus on more important details.
My fiance had zero interest in registering. He only wanted to if we registered a a hardware store. Ha. So I took him to Target and Crate & Barrel and we picked out appliances, but when it came to things like silverware and glasses, I just added them myself online. I don’t know anything about your guy, but if he’s like mine, he just doesn’t care what our dishes and utensils look like. He took care of things like the DJ, hotel rooms, transportation, and the rehearsal dinner. I didn’t even bother with his input on things like flowers or bridesmaid dresses (not because I don’t value his opinion, but) because I knew he wouldn’t care one way or another.
Post # 4
The problem is that I have the invites picked out (I think) and I have the flowers picked out, the dresses have been ordered. I keep trying to get his input on centerpieces and such and he just doesn’t care. My family is in MN (where our wedding will be) and I only have 1 friend down here involved in wedding planning. I think I am going to have to not care what the Mr thinks and just get my Bridesmaid or Best Man to help me on this one. Every idea I have bounced off of him has been rejected.
I think I am just frustrated too that everytime we are out together and I want to go somewhere he (conveniently in my opinion) forgets that I wanted to go somewhere he didn’t have on his list. It’s very irksome. This happens all the time and I really feel like he isn’t listening to me. Ever. I know his PTSD and his ADHD play a part, but come on. 🙁 We were next door to Kohls yesterday (at Lowe’s) and I mentioned that we should go register, when we left he turned the opposite direction and started driving home. I am completely hurt by his behavior and I have completely shut down in communicating with him because of it. I mean obviously there is a lot more behind me shutting down but I don’t think anyone would really understand it, it’s a lot of PTSD and Army related crap. I just wish he would pay more attention to how I feel sometimes and not just do whatever he wants to do.