(Closed) Feeling Greedy

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with you on this one! If they attend the event I believe it is just nice to bring you something. I would let your guests do as they wish and if you don’t get a gift then atleast your Fiance won’t be mad because he already wasn’t expecting one but don’t tell them not to bring one or maybe no one will bring anything!!


Post # 4
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@NewfieBullet: People will never give more than they can afford to. I personally hate gift registry’s because I feel like the couple is saying to me “Here you go, this is the stuff you have to buy me”. I agree with you most people do just bring a card now. So unless you are demanding a gift from people you really aren’t being selfish or greedy.


Post # 5
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dont think you should expect gifts if people are shelling out to make it to your wedding (with hotel , accomodations and food it will get pricey) perhaps you can register for your dishes at your shower?  

Post # 6
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Personally, I would not directly tell people not to bring a gift. But I would emphasis that more than anything you just want them to be there to celebrate with you. Personally, I’d rather not discuss other people’s finances.

You should definetly start a registry. You can pick items with low price points, which will help people who don’t want to show up empty handed. And hey, how else would they know what color towels you want. If I only could afford $25, I would rather get you a gift than give you the cash. It may just be me, but I think it look better.

Post # 7
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Also places like Bed Bath and Beyond have a store to store shipping where you can register, lets say at your home town. And I here in Virginia can go and pick out what I wanted to buy off your registry, and say it’s for this registry, and they notify your store, and your store notifies you its ready for pick up.

Post # 8
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t feel greedy. Just because you register, it doesn’t OBLIGE your guest to go through that…Register for a few things 🙂

Post # 9
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t feel greedy. I’m opposite of some PPs – as a guest I have always preferred to purchase off a registry, because I knew I was buying something the couple really wanted. (although now after being on the planning side, I will probably just give cash in the future).

I never spent more than I could afford, though, and I bought the gifts because I wanted too. So don’t worry there.

As for how to phrase it… we just linked the info on our website under a tab called “our Registries” and said “Thank you for thinking of us” on the page.

Post # 10
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I actually agree with your Fiance, its nice to say “ohn you dont have to bring a gift” The truth is those who really want to give you a gift willbring something anyway. I didnt have a registry and I told everyone who asked me about it that I didnt expect any gifts but I still got a lot of cash and a few gifts, even from those who didnt attend

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