(Closed) feeling guilty

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I totally do this. I’d never say anything to anyone – except maybe my Fiance, haha. But I have to admit that I’m guilty of judging weddings too! It’s not like it makes me look at the couple differently or that I’m judging them, but I just can’t help judging the wedding itself sometimes! 🙂

Post # 4
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I do understand what you are saying. I’ve been to a few weddings like that.  They were nice and all in different budget ranges.

don’t feel guilty I think we are just more in tune with the details because we are doing the planning right now for our own weddings.

Post # 5
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Ahhh I so do… we were at a wedding just this weekend! But I only talked about it with fi’ and my Future Mother-In-Law, coz they would get the whole ‘analyse for purposes of own wedding’ thing. Fi’ did some analysis too 🙂

We LOVE the couple and weren’t interested in criticising them personally, but it was great to be able to look at things throughout the day and think, ‘okay, yes that works well’, or ‘hmmm that won’t work for us’.

I think so long as you’re not openly critical then it’s fine:)

Post # 6
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it’s any different than going over to someone’s house and not liking their living room. It’s just not your style. I think what you do with your opinion is important. If you keep it to yourself or just talk about it with your Fiance, I think you’re probably fine. If you start talking about it all over town and degrading them because of it, then it might be a problem. I think we all do it though, don’t feel bad.

Post # 8
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Umm, I have to point this out (for my own good as well I was doing this while looking at a friend’s wedding photos)–a lot of the stuff on Style Me Pretty and in magazines has been designed by event designers. It looks amazing because that’s the designer’s job. Not everyone has the same time, motivation, or the natural design ability. And thats a good thing. Because it is just one day. To put it in economic terms, for some of us, our resources could be used much more efficiently doing other things that we are better at.

So I think that to the extent you are using other weddings to inform your own wedding, that’s great! Like telling yourself to remember to do that little detail. But we should all (myself included) try to refrain from criticizing other people’s weddings.

Post # 9
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Most of the weddings I’ve been to have been really lovely. However, there was one in particular that the organization was a disaster. Nothing was on time, no one was where they were supposed to be, things weren’t working at the last minute. I ended up having to set up things in the reception hall right before the wedding and I was just a guest!

The wedding turned out very nice, but the lack of preparation had me stressed to the max. I definately don’t want my guests to be stressed out or doing chores at my wedding.

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