(Closed) Feeling guilty

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Rosie Girl, just take things one at a time. The most important thing is for you to stay healthy. Once that’s handled, then you guys can talk more about the kids issue. It sounds like you have a great guy. And even if you aren’t able to have any biological children together, you could always look into adopting.

Take care.

Post # 4
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You need to take care of your health first.  It sounds like your Fiance understands this and you need to stop beating yourself up over it.  If the doctors need to do something in order to keep you from getting sick or dying, you might need to do that.  I don’t think he would want to have a baby with you and then end up losing you prematurely due to cancer that could have been prevented.  There are other ways to have babies if you can’t carry them yourself.

Post # 5
41 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011



I am sorry to hear that.  I have been in remission from cancer for 5 years, I am now 26 yrs old.  I underwent chemo, radiation and surgery for years…it really really sucks.  My point is this–is there anything you can do to have your eggs frozen so just in case something goes wrong, you can try a different method ie, surrogate, etc


sounds like your soon to be hubby is a great guy—and to be honest, your reaction of guilt is completely normal.  I have no idea with all my treatments if i will ever be able to have kids, and i feel guilty/sad about it sometimes.  the only thing you can do is do EXACTLY what your doctor tells you…but look into your options before you do any type of treatment. 

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