(Closed) Feeling guilty about a potential engagement ring upgrade

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I pretty much was in the same situation. My Fiance and I went wedding band shopping and I just could not find anything that I liked. I have an e-ring that is a classic and a lot of people have it, so I didn’t want a wedding band that looked bland or looked exactly like what everyone else has. My Fiance agreed and he originally wanted to get me a whole new set too (just take the diamond out of the current e-ring and put it in the new one) and then I would have a whole new e-ring and then just a simple thin wedding band for when the wedding came, but I didn’t feel right about that. So, what we decided is that we would get a much more elaborate wedding band (ring) and then take the diamond out of the e-ring and put it in the wedding ring. I will then keep the original e-ring band and put a gem stone of some sort in it.

Not sure if my story will help you or not, but thought I would share it since I was in a similar situation ๐Ÿ™‚

**Reading this back, I’m not even sure this makes sense…sorry.

Post # 5
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m wearing my second e-ring. The first wasn’t exactly what I wanted so Fiance got a new one. I feel it’s more important to get something you love than settle. We have the best men, why not the best ring? Some people on here will tell you all kinds of reasons not to, but as long as you both are ok with it, then don’t worry. 


For the record, since the change, I’ve not had one moment of NOT loving it. Took the original diamond and slipped it into the second setting. Haven’t looked back!

Post # 6
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Chelsey-Bell:  I don’t have any advice for you, I just like that our names are almost the same ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just switched out my center stone and I’m so excited to go pick it up from the jewelers.  I think that you should be ecstatic about your e-ring and ring set. I mean, it’s just jewelry, sure it has meaning and symbolism, but it’s not like you’re leaving your relationship at the jewelers!  ๐Ÿ™‚


I think if your man is okay with it, and you want a change you should do it.  

Post # 8
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Coral99:  +1. I really think at the end of the day, you must love your ring, and if that means getting and upgrade then do it! Especially if your Fiance suggested it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@loveerin:  Yes! And I forgot to mention, he suggested it, so definately if Fiance did! 

Post # 10
36 posts
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Sandals Barbados

@Chelsey-Bell:  I was in the same boat as you a few months ago. My first e-ring was a bridge setting, with a quad cut center stone.  While I absolutely LOVED my ring and it fit the budget at time of purchase, I didn’t want the typical round channel set band to match.  I wanted something more dainty, feminine, different.  My fiance knew how much I loved and appreciated the first ring, but he also had an opinion in picking out my upgrade.  If you want something newer and it fits with the budget, definitely incorporate your fiance into the deciding.. that way it still has meaning from him too. ๐Ÿ™‚

Dont know if that helped at all, but I couldn’t be more in love with my upgrade.. although a much larger upgrade (I want 2-3ct) will happen many many many years down the road. 

Post # 11
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We upgraded to a completely new set about 6 months ago and I did feel guilty about it at first but I love my new set soo much more that I got over it…lol If your SO is ok with it then go for it!!

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