(Closed) Feeling guilty about bridal party costs…

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Normally if the ride wants hair and makeup done professionally, the bride pays for it. Otherwise the girls do their own.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t ask them to pay for hair and makeup. They are probably only planning on paying for the dress and tux rental/suit (and your dress price seems reasonable to me).

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s plenty of time to save though, so that’s good!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I wouldnt worry too much. They have a whole year. But I also agree with julies. If the bride wants professional hair/makeup she usually pays for it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I agree with PPs, pay for the hair and makeup of all at least.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We paid for everythimg for our bridesmaids and groomsmen bc I knew they couldnt afford it. I would pay for the couple traveling that is expecting, but I am def in the minority about that.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldnt stress as long as the girls are happy to do it its fine.

God my BM’s all told me they were paying for it all and I wouldnt be from the day I asked them to be in the bridal party!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I worry about this too.  my Maid/Matron of Honor is in France and to come will be traveling with her 2yo son and 6 month old new born!  We’ve been planning since December abnd at first I was worried but I’ve more or less come to accept that I have a special place for each bridal party member but if their lives do take unexpected turns we’ll make do together!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If it was just an option and they said they wanted the hair and makeup, I wouldn’t worry about it. But closer to the wedding date before you do your contract or whatever with the hair/makeup person, I’d double check with all the girls and make sure no one changed their mind and wants to do it themselves. But $140 is a pretty average dress price – just get them each a thoughtful gift and stop worrying about it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@OtterHalf:  I agree, I am planning on factoring the costs of attire, shoes, hair and makeup for the bridal party into our budget

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I would be annoyed with having to pay $140 for the dress. I am frugal, and we could afford the dres, but I wouldn’t want to afford it. Half of my wardrobe cost $140 (I’m a thrifty shopper, so for $140 I can get a ton of great stuff).

I would refuse to pay for my hair and makeup at all. I would do it myself, have a girlfriend do it, or let you pay for it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@groovinbride:  my parents will be paying for the wedding, but yeah I think here in Australia whoever pays for the wedding pays for the attire etc. So I think you’re right, maybe just offer to help out the couple who will have a newborn?

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