Post # 1
Me and my fiance are getting married next year and have asked all our bridesmaids and groomsmen to be in our wedding party. They have all said yes and are super excited.
As I’m picking out things for the bridesmaids though, I’m starting to feel a little guilty about them spending the money. Some of them would have no problem spending it all, but since we are friends, I know the financial situation for some of them makes it difficult. I don’t think I am asking for anything unreasonable but I still feel bad about it. As an example the dresses I’m lookng at are about $140, and the hair and makeup person will be about $90pp.
I think it’s one couple I worry about the most. They are newly pregnant so will have a 3 month old at the time of the wedding and both of them are in the bridal party. I know they don’t have any excess of cash, plus they will have to travel to the wedding either an hour flight or a 10 hour drive.
People know the expense when they agree to be in a bridal party, so should I just stop thinking about it?
Post # 3
Normally if the ride wants hair and makeup done professionally, the bride pays for it. Otherwise the girls do their own.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t ask them to pay for hair and makeup. They are probably only planning on paying for the dress and tux rental/suit (and your dress price seems reasonable to me).
Post # 5
It’s plenty of time to save though, so that’s good!
Post # 6
I wouldnt worry too much. They have a whole year. But I also agree with julies. If the bride wants professional hair/makeup she usually pays for it.
Post # 7
I agree with PPs, pay for the hair and makeup of all at least.
Post # 8
We paid for everythimg for our bridesmaids and groomsmen bc I knew they couldnt afford it. I would pay for the couple traveling that is expecting, but I am def in the minority about that.
Post # 9
I wouldnt stress as long as the girls are happy to do it its fine.
God my BM’s all told me they were paying for it all and I wouldnt be from the day I asked them to be in the bridal party!
Post # 10
The hair and makeup person was not something I insisted on, but something they all said they would like. We all weighed the options between doing ourselves, going to a salon or bringing someone in. I’ve thought about covering the hair and makeup but it would be as a gift, not because I insisted on it.
Post # 11
I worry about this too. my Maid/Matron of Honor is in France and to come will be traveling with her 2yo son and 6 month old new born! We’ve been planning since December abnd at first I was worried but I’ve more or less come to accept that I have a special place for each bridal party member but if their lives do take unexpected turns we’ll make do together!
Post # 12
If it was just an option and they said they wanted the hair and makeup, I wouldn’t worry about it. But closer to the wedding date before you do your contract or whatever with the hair/makeup person, I’d double check with all the girls and make sure no one changed their mind and wants to do it themselves. But $140 is a pretty average dress price – just get them each a thoughtful gift and stop worrying about it.
Post # 13
@OtterHalf: I agree, I am planning on factoring the costs of attire, shoes, hair and makeup for the bridal party into our budget
Post # 14
@Jacqui90: If we can cover it all, we will! It’s interesting, a friend of mine is from Austrailia and thought it was super strange that in Canada, bridal party members commonly purchse alot themselves. I wonder if thats a cultural thing? The only people here that I know of that have payed for it all had parents who are well off and paying for it all.
Post # 15
I would be annoyed with having to pay $140 for the dress. I am frugal, and we could afford the dres, but I wouldn’t want to afford it. Half of my wardrobe cost $140 (I’m a thrifty shopper, so for $140 I can get a ton of great stuff).
I would refuse to pay for my hair and makeup at all. I would do it myself, have a girlfriend do it, or let you pay for it.
Post # 16
@groovinbride: my parents will be paying for the wedding, but yeah I think here in Australia whoever pays for the wedding pays for the attire etc. So I think you’re right, maybe just offer to help out the couple who will have a newborn?